This will be a venting post of sorts today, but I just feel like I need to get it off my chest and release. I’ve had so many encounters lately with certain types of situations and the lack of COURTESY amazes me. Some are ongoing but most scenarios occurred recently as I am caught off guard with how to respond. Yes, people need to be accepted but sometimes~ OOF, we need to speak up. I’m not “clotheslining” everyone but just trying to implement more respect and kindness we all deserve.
Where have courtesies gone? I remember Warrior recalling when he and Sting were first tag team partners and that they ” were good hearted guys, we had good manners.” Maybe much of that does depend on how one was raised for sure but later in life to me, it’s just common sense and good thinking. I have mentioned principles (always a factor with me…) and chivalry, but today is just about every day “niceties” that we seem to have forgotten. In this global ever changing world, we teach kids those kind words of graciousness but then as adults, become too bothered to respond. Maybe I’m too “old school” on this but it’s still important, right? Everyone is “BUSY.” That’s like saying you breathed today. 🤨It’s all priorities…
I remember handwriting thank you notes after our wedding. Nowadays, most seem to get a “one size fits all” collective thank you without any personal touch at all. I find this sad but perhaps there is little concern of those writing “snail mail” 🐌 anymore. Let me tell you this though. I am sending out those graduation invites for my daughter just like I did with my son plus party invites and she WILL be writing thank yous. To me, it’s the right thing to do as an acknowledgment to a recipient~~~ a courtesy that takes little time. That 30 minutes you spend on your phone looking at social sites can be spent addressing those much deserved thank yous. It’s not so much the societal expectation as few abide by those etiquettes anymore as it is proper to do like saying, “thank you” or “you’re welcome.” Others can disagree but my heart will always feel this way. Sure, you can visit, call, or even text if convenient but sometimes other work needs to be done.
Warrior wanted always to PERSONALLY thank fans whether it was in person with a handshake, hug, or answering emails. It can seem daunting but there are those of us who feel it necessary although sometimes you might not get any reciprocation. When someone visits your home, you thank them for coming, true? The reverse applies when leaving as you thank the host. We know this and yet forget or just bypass it all together. I know I am also guilty of this if it is somewhere I didn’t want to go or with people I didn’t really want to see. We should still use a courtesy, as I put my feelings aside in those circumstances to do so. We should as well let another know important details like if you will be running late, bringing a guest, etc. We shouldn’t just show up unexpectedly without notice or assuming it’s OK. Sure, there will be enough for one more most likely but we need to physically use our WORDS warriors. That’s just being courteous. 
Just because we are close to someone or by association, doesn’t mean we “help ourselves” to their personal space. Create a healthy boundary and don’t be afraid to let others know. It isn’t about being too guarded to invite another, but they need to realize limits without wearing out that welcome mat. 
I have noticed with many people that if you give an inch, they take a mile and not in a good way. This means others might take advantage if given the opportunity you have bestowed upon them. My lesson learned is to refrain from overcompensating just to please and if it brings discord, so be it. What others think of you is none of your business, remember that. Warrior certainly did as he proved along his life journey. There are those who say he did not abide much by way of “wrestling courtesies” through the years and maybe he does regret that now. He does know all that and more in spirit but we need these experiences to grow. It may not be as groups, society, or families want but our gut tells us otherwise and it’s always a choice.
Here’s a quote I retweeted on Twitter last week: ” The simple truth… We all just want to be accepted, respected, appreciated, heard, and loved.” It’s by Samantha Woodbeck. Isn’t that the truth though? I will add to that by saying: ” for who we ARE.” Not trying to change or even judge but just letting it BE. Yes, I know it’s important to speak up in some situations but the reality is- people don’t change, they evolve. We can question behavior but they will still be them as we will be us- regardless. Like my one sister recently told me: ” you know I’m a snoop.” I used to be in some ways and even though she was honest, may never conform to a new thinking. I did correct her on a few topics but then later on realized despite her being a grown adult, that part of her forgetting courtesies will still be there unless SHE takes action to rectify it.
I think that photo of the Ultimate Warrior below fits as I had planned using another one (very typical… ) His face shows what I’ve been feeling lately! We need to pick our battles indeed and some wars (even on courtesy) may never be fully won. Just continue being YOU with right minded intentions, while others do them. They have their life to live but you can do better as it’s always a learning process every day. Let’s not just RSVP to certain invites but do all of life in a respectful courteous way. I even get reminder texts for appointments. That’s nice too. My vet still sends reminder postcards in the mail! 🐶🐱📭
P.S. Warrior also mentioned being courteous to the veterans in his early WWF days. Despite their verbal attacks, he still responded positively to them. I bet that was a smaller ultimate challenge back then!
P.P.S. I have a correction to make. Meditation began for me 9 years ago, not 8. Just like yoga did for me. Both in late 2015… Math is not my thing. 😜🤷🏻♀️🧘♀️🪷Boy, the numbers this year though with SO much coming…
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