Protect Your Character

***I’m back! Did ya miss me? I missed my writings but after our vacay, it’s time for more stories!

Protecting your character can imply so many meanings. It all depends on your perspective. With this title, Warrior mentioned how important it was for him to do just that~~ protect his Ultimate Warrior character. What I believe it meant in his context was not compromising so much that the character’s integrity gets undervalued. When someone wanted to “take liberties with your character,” you had to remember your own values. It got down to “the business of the business” meaning that each character stays true to his core.

I could relate to this story as well told by Warrior on the Ultimate Collection DVD. When my book Spirit and Belief came out, the approach was somewhat different than it is today. My values are the same but the attitude has shifted just a little. At first I was super protective as those stories in that book belong to us both- me and Warrior. No way was I gonna just let anyone who didn’t truly “get it” involved.

It was after all like a baby I just birthed and not all were allowed to “hold it.” The writing was easy, marketing not so much. I could never form the words right when describing it to anyone foreign to him, wrestling, or spirituality.

I think deep down my Belief was that the book could survive online on its own without me. It can but that’s like sending a baby bird out of the nest before it’s fully ready. Had to use a bird reference if you know some of my writings about them in the past. BTW– we have baby robins growing bigger in a nest this summer!! Now, I am much more comfortable speaking about our stories while still protecting them. No, they aren’t for everybody but nobody will know either unless I help it to fly.

Do you protect your character when needed? I am big on principles just like Warrior ( I still will refer to him in the present) but compromises are needed too. I don’t mean a character like on T.V. but your true self. Do you cave on important issues just to please others? You shouldn’t. Yes, it’s easier but it’ll affect you numerous ways with guilt showing up.

When we take on certain roles in life, protecting that character can be challenging. We sometimes will say : “I didn’t sign up for this!” Maybe even: “It’s not in my contract!” I certainly didn’t compromise when it came to a former boss asking staff to do personal errands. Professional ones, yeah but when we didn’t have enough kids– I’d work in the office. I would never run a personal errand unless I’m the boss’s assistant which none of us teachers were.

From politics to religion, ( which I’ll never discuss) parenting, careers, or all in betweens, protecting your character and values needs to stand for something. There are countless decisions we make but conforming or not needs to be decided only by you. Anything you create is yours so are you protecting it or not? Nobody else will. Take pride in your craft, share how you want, but always protect. Make it work for you as a balance of not too tight but not too loose either.

Pro athletes or really anyone that performs has their own character that might start out a certain way but then evolves into so much more for an audience to see. You’d protect what’s important to you right? They do too even though we might not ever know “behind closed doors.” We all start out with help but it’s on you to make your OWN character thrive.

When the Ultimate Warrior battled Andre the Giant , protecting characters were considered for sure. I mean nobody was bigger than Andre– literally and figuratively. The Warrior character was still a novice at the time but never wavered from his convictions. Andre helped the U.W. character as only a legend could. Integrity and protection remained on both sides. This is how it should be but in reality, it doesn’t always work that way.

The level of how we protect what’s ours may differ but the core shouldn’t break. Bend a little maybe but not break. Keep your character protected and strong however that looks to you. It is after all~~ inside of you to do so.

P.S. I recently wanted some champagne just for fun and found one labeled “Andre.” Had to get it since Warrior would always buy Andre his favorite wine out of respect for protecting the character of Ultimate Warrior. πŸ·πŸ€Όβ€β™€οΈπŸ’ͺ🏻πŸ₯‚

Don’t Make Assumptions

We make assumptions all the time about everyone and everything. I’m gonna use that photo you see of a young Jim Hellwig training as a bodybuilder. Let’s see how a typical GUY conversation would go: (hypothetically)

Guy #1 “Look at him, I could be ripped like that!”

Guy #2 “He’s probably all fake or is all doped up.”

I could list more but won’t. They would either aspire to have that body or be jealous of it. **Let’s see how a typical GIRL conversation would go: (hypothetically again and of course a little different…)

Girl #1 OMG, he is so HOT!” ( or insert another word of choice.)

Girl #2 “Are you kidding? He probably thinks he’s all that and has such an ego!”

I could list more again but won’t. They would either think he’s super hot or think he’s an egotist.

What would your assumption be? It might be different if you know or knew of the man in the photo. If you didn’t perhaps you’d think he was indeed training for something like bodybuilding, wrestling, or just loving the gym. Maybe even you’d assume he was a model or male stripper? He so could’ve been! Even though some assumptions might be right, let’s try to not focus on the first three letters of the word ASSumption.

We often times “mislabel” people based on physical attributes. Many women get called “dumb blondes.” If too thin, they have an “eating disorder.” If they are well-endowed, they have had surgery for sure. It works in professions too. Some that are nurses get accused of not “making it as a doctor.” If you’re highly successful or intelligent, you become a “nerd” or “always bragging.” Am sure you could share your own assumptions and all of us are guilty. I’ve often heard how “pretty people have it easy.” Not true at all. They need to prove their worth is more than a face or even a body.

Not all of us base assumptions on outside or external factors. As a writer, it probably is assumed I’m anti-social, who knows?! I’m working on this more and more by really getting to the core or root of a person. Take this blog for example. I have often times pondered how my writings are always evolving. What started as mainly outward comparisons with Warrior has become much more internal and introspective. I obviously don’t mean physical discipline but ya know– that teen girl who means so much to me more now. More on that in a few weeks….😬

We need to find out people’s “stories” like I always say– along with the how and why. It isn’t just about the what. Why do you do the things you do and how do you do them? Are you assuming the worst or negativity in others most of the time? Maybe others are even assuming the worst about you.

My challenge for you is to ease up on those assumptions if you can. Next time you are around a group of people somewhere, try super hard to not assume the worst about them. I’ll do it too. It could be in a restaurant, the airport, a shopping mall, concert, or anywhere really. We don’t know their story and might never fully.

Many assumed the worst about Warrior without ever really knowing him. Sure, we do bring on a little of this ourselves but people are always quick to jump on that negative train. There is a reason why we open up to some and not others. Let’s not assume the worst and be open to giving the benefit of the doubt. We all need this life lesson and not just for famous people. Warrior wasn’t exempt from this either. Let’s respect and not assume…. πŸ‘ŠπŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»

~~~ P.S. We are taking a vacation so this will be it for a bit. Check back in a few weeks or feel free to catch up on previous posts! In the meantime, visit me at: www.spiritandbelief.com for other spiritual posts, book info, and a Work With Me page 😊 You can also find me on Twitter, youtube, and Pinterest.

*** Happy Independence Day tomorrow for all celebrating in the U.S.A.! Remember those true ultimate heroes who fought to make our country FREE! πŸ™πŸ»πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ

What’s Your Plan B?

Several weeks ago I mentioned how “It’s Never One Thing” as to why we like or dislike things. I discussed hobbies or interests and your feelings behind them. This post takes that idea a little further. I made you a YouTube video that I’ll link at the end since we all need a plan B. So many times I’ve said how glad I felt that Warrior always had a plan B. I have several as well. Do you? Once your 9-5 has possibly ended for that time in your life, then what? Warrior had other outlets besides wrestling and I have others besides this blog! If this scares you a little, maybe that’s good.

My advice is to become interested in other activities now before your actual “career” comes to an end. Nobody wants panic to set in without going to that job everyday. That brings us to the word of retirement. Some love that word, others dread it. Most that dread it don’t have a plan B.

Sure, the Ultimate Warrior had that “retirement” match with “Macho King” Randy Savage in Wrestlemania VII. Well, that was on T.V. although unprecedented for the WWE then. Retirement isn’t what it used to be. Not many begin that chapter at age 65 anymore, move to Florida, or travel in a Winnebago. Where did all that come from anyway? Some may never fully retire as is the case concerning a few people connected with WWE.

Many have children now as Superstars or are involved in the business with other aspects. I have always agreed with Warrior about moving on but he does state on the Ultimate Collection DVD how respect is given to those “who live and breathe the business.” Being a pro athlete takes its toll physically, mentally, and psychologically. Some may never fully leave the company but there are so many other opportunities now. There are lots of athletes that start their own business after retiring and some disconnect from their sport entirely.

There are even those who “semi-retire” but miss it so much, they return a year or so later. For us who aren’t athletes, we need to consider many things. Finances, travel, family, hobbies, or anything suitable to your life. I for one still hope to be able to do my activities that fill me with such joy. I love them now so when I’m older, they’ll still be there for me (hopefully!) Start brainstorming if you don’t have some sort of plan B in place for yourself.

I’m not suggesting anything too dangerous or unsafe here! Just maybe try something new and different but start small. Do those things that you never had time for in your life prior to retirement. Like Warrior said:“Learn everything.” You might just surprise yourself with what you can do and learn. Don’t become too advanced in years that you are unable to enjoy your Plan B.

No need to dwell too much but make it a little thought in your mind once in a while. I personally will never be that couch potato who watches the News and Weather Channel! If that’s you, no offense but it’ll never be me. Retirement shouldn’t be too sedentary. Sure, we deserve it after years and years at the job but the body and mind still need activity. You are the one who can use both but only if you want.

Write down some plan B ideas but truly make them matter. After all, they are yours to fulfill. Retirement does indeed look different for each of us but always believe in the Plan B of your life. It will make a difference in a uniquely ultimate way!

P.S. I recently found out the animated Disney movie “Sleeping Beauty” is also turning 60 this year just like Warrior would’ve been. I had a music box in a photo with the post “Creative Collections.” It’s my favorite Princess movie. Warrior actually said at the beginning of a video: “Wake up Sleeping Beauty!” ~~ Wake up to the Plan B of your life!! πŸ˜΄πŸ‘‘πŸŒ™

P.P.S. Here is my YouTube video titled: “Always Be Multi-Passionate.”

https://youtu.be/isSS4tEdVrw

www.spiritandbelief.com

The Journey of Steve

I know The James Boys was blogged already but how about Steve? There was that movie in 2009 called All About Steve but this isn’t Sandra Bullock and Bradley Cooper! I’ll only share stories that connect many things with me and Warrior so we have Steves in common. This really is quite the journey like my sign says . That story is in a little bit…

Most Ultimate Warrior fans know his connection with many Steves. First, his tag team partner was Steve Borden, (Sting) then he wrestled Steve Lombardi many times,( he was the Brooklyn Brawler.) Warrior acknowledged him in his HOF speech. Last was Steve Wilton who was Warrior’s manager.

Here are my Steves. Well, in my OWN way. I regularly get Stevie’s comments on my YouTube videos and he has read my other blog at www.spiritandbelief.com That is also the title of my book! Another Steve hopefully many of you know is Steve Perry of the band Journey. Don’t Stop Believin!” has been a constant song of theirs in my life for years and now even more after Warrior’s passing. A few years ago in Art my son even used some of those song lyrics on a fun project. I couldn’t help but have a WOW moment. He told me that song just came to him. It still hangs up in his room.

Back in the fall last year, I met this woman at an Author’s Conference and she and I instantly bonded. Her name was Molly Perry and her husband was Steve. Another WOW moment. He had passed a few years ago so she totally connected with my spirit vibe. GET THIS! She shared a funny story of how they were youth counselors and had jackets made for the kids. On the side of the sleeves were the words: “Don’t Stop Believin’!” He told people he was THE Steve Perry of Journey and they’d believe him!! She had me laughing and even bought my book.

That just leaves my sign you see with the beautiful lotus flower. I took this painting class at a local place that is a wine bar, craft corner, and yoga studio! What a great combo. Well, I was intrigued with this wooden oval you’d paint and then use a stencil ( yes, please) to create your lotus flower. I chose purple out of 3 choices since that represents a lotus to me. The last addition was a meaningful word. So many choices yet where to begin?

My mind wandered into using many. I didn’t want Spirit or even Believe since that’s my book and Journey is on another sign I have. Remember “The Falling Signs?” Some other possible words were: inspire, endure, and a few more. Many seemed too common for me like Faith, Hope, or Love. Too overused. I was still deciding on the way there! My decision was made while listening to the radio. That’s right. Journey’s Don’t Stop Believin’!” played when I was almost to the parking lot.

Another woman also chose that word and yet another picked believe. I was with the right group that day. All of ours came out great but mine seemed to get the best compliments. I was very methodical in lining up each letter with a lotus petal. Good thing we had that stencil but truly, I could’ve done it anyway. So, now I have 2 Journey signs but it really is the right one since I never stop believin’! I look at them both everyday.

This is another story that kinda seemed silly sharing and yet it’s entirely me with how my Journey is. I might not know a Steve personally like Warrior did but they still pop up in my life in other ways. Warrior always talked more about the journey instead of the destination anyhow. We are all on our OWN journey whether or not you know any Steves, listen to the band, paint, or anything else. As long as you “Don’t Stop Believin’!”

P.S. CONGRATS to the Toronto Raptors on winning their FIRST NBA Championship in 2019! I have to mention this since am very biased. You can archive my basketball story but that’s also in the book. Anyhow, they won in game 6 which connects to WMVI held in Toronto! πŸ‡¨πŸ‡¦ πŸ€The only time I am for a Warrior!!! ( My Ohio CAVS won 3 years ago today!) Gotta love winning something the first time!!

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Happy 60th Warrior…πŸ’™

I believe Warrior’s birthday fell on Father’s Day a few years ago so here we are yet again. Am sure his girls will be honoring their Dad in their OWN special way. My thoughts go out to them as always. Perhaps he can celebrate what would’ve been such a great milestone up in parts unknown with those fortunate to know the real him. That Fatherly love will be felt by his daughters guaranteed.❀️❀️

This post brought a similar idea I had back in Jan. of ” Q and A Warrior Time.” I answered some questions about my journey that had been asked of me but decided to reverse that somewhat. What type of role would Warrior have had as a WWE Ambassador? Would he have agreed to some similar jobs Dana has taken on? I know she advocates for women and now is even part of the creative writing team, you GO girl! There are many opportunities but I always did wonder what he’d take on.

Well, that got my creative juices flowing as I conjured up my OWN set of Q and A’s to ask HIM. Yep, you read that right! What if I could’ve interviewed him? Some things I always wondered about but some are newer. I have watched many videos and listened to interviewers ask the SAME questions over and over. It’s no wonder he got so annoyed… πŸ™„ Sure, it’s a different audience and ratings matter but what about the good stuff? Where is that? Let’s take out the negative stories and ask better ones! At least that’s my opinion.

So, having said that– here’s MY interview. ~~ I would just have to BREATHE and meditate first… πŸ˜¬πŸ€—πŸ’ͺ🏻

1. Did you have an artistic ability as a child that resulted in creating such colorful artwork? ( face included!)

2. Would you ever have considered finishing your chiropractic degree after retiring from wrestling? Or, even pursuing other movie opportunities?

3. How long did it take to paint your face with extra details?

4. Did you ever feel like you’d trip when running to the ring?

5. Was there ever anyone in the crowd who was so distracting when you’d perform in the ring? ( cotton candy man and fans comes to my mind)

6. What did you write in your journal the day of April 1, 1990? ( So ironic this is #6, not on purpose!)

7. The ONLY Hogan question I have from a fan standpoint is please tell me the emotion was real with the hug at the end of WMVI?!

8. This is a BIGGIE since it’s in my book “Spirit and Belief” but whose idea was it to slam “Queen Sherri” at the end of The Steel Cage match against “Macho King”? Both of Yours? Vince?

9. Can you give us the secret to the Casket? Was there a breakaway floor or something so you could breathe? What were you thinking in there with them drilling and all? SO many bad memories for me!!!

10. The last one connects you and me. Spiritually speaking, how did you come to know terms such as intuition, third eye, evolution, past lives, and others? I blogged about this with ” The Spiritual Warrior” in regards to the comic book. Also, this relates to your final speech on RAW? It sounded eerie…, (This would take a while am sure for him)

Well, fans there’s my list. I do know possibly how he’d answer some ( most with his big hearty laugh!) He probably wouldn’t give the casket secret away! Here’s what I WOULDN’T discuss:

1. Steroids/Trial

2. Lawsuits

3. Money

4. Destruction DVD

5. Disgust of the betrayal in WCW

6. Contracts

7. Vince McMahon ( negative aspects)

8. Hulk Hogan ( not really anyway)

9. Not being a “technical” wrestler

10. His disciplined intense workout

~~ Been there, DONE that!

I could easily ask a TON more but will keep it at a 10 count. Personally, I’d ask some questions about his family life but nothing too intimate. Maybe this interview wouldn’t become “newsworthy” but I KNOW Warrior would love it. Maybe I’m a little biased but honestly, these questions would resonate so much better than the millionth time being asked the 10 DON’TS I listed. I think much has been said also about his early years in the business with Sting.

What would your questions be Warrior fans? Watching some of the matches or promos always brings up funny stuff and that’s what I’m about. This blog really started with Dana doing a Q and A a few summers ago where she answered my question– best for last LOL!

~~ Here’s to Warrior remembering his 60th and being that Dad his girls knew so well. My wish is that he is happy spiritually but he gives me signs all the time! πŸ™πŸ» Perhaps he’ll answer some of my questions in other ways, who knows? Take that clothesline other “interviewers!”

P. S. Here is the YouTube video link of the photo above titled: “Put Your Mind Into Your Workout.”

I know this video is about working out but it’s so much more. There are so many good ones out there but this is great wisdom to listen and learn from.

https://youtu.be/qOXdEUEeUIY

~~~ One LAST thing, this is always an emotional time of year for me as shortly before Warrior’s birthday 3 years ago, I began writing. That’s also when I found my 1st feather~~ a beautiful white one! πŸ˜‡

Always Give 110%

I’m not a person to do anything halfway. Most of the time this is great but sometimes it can become exhausting. When I am doing an activity, my mind and heart are IN ALL THE WAY. O.K., there are moments where I slip into thinking of my next thing but overall the person or situation receives my full attention. Are you this same way?

I give what I’m doing all that I have whether it’s an event, my fitness routine, WRITING, friendships, and those preschool jobs of the past. Being a mom also involves so much giving even now with my teens attitudes!! πŸ™„πŸ˜¬ If you knew of Warrior at all, giving 110% was always at the center of who he was and STILL is as a spirit (; I know this to be true. πŸ’™

A recent memory of mine was after I had done the Radio Interview with Kate Delaney of America Tonight back in October 2018. All I was told was that it was part of the Oct. 10th edition but the program is 3 hours! I was only given that info but wanted a direct link for others to listen. I found the episode and just had to keep listening while fast forwarding to my part. This took quite a while. I did imagine how Warrior would respond!! My interview is 27:11 into hour 2 so I was determined. That’s giving 110%.

This isn’t always the case of a good ending though. For me, I think in some situations perhaps my giving is too much. The outcome doesn’t always work out successfully and then our emotions respond. We all might give a lot when others give very little. I still am me but every circumstance brings it’s own challenges. Being determined is one thing but always wearing yourself too thin is another.

I look at how Warrior approached his career and I did mine the same. Obviously, I was NOT a pro-wrestler (lol!) but the passion was equal with his work ethics. I too would write ideas down and be so prepared, this resulted in some teasing… The job was my life since I had no family of my own yet. The pressure he faced wasn’t mine but giving that 110% of ourselves is us both.

When I’d hear stories of him going in early, staying later, or working on promos, it sounded a lot like me. Just sub lesson plans for promos. This spilled into other areas of my life too but now much more has been learned. I have enjoyed many activities by slowing down some, we have to breathe! Maybe Warrior couldn’t slow down much but his family kept him grounded. He needed that grounding to keep giving 110% so his legacy would continue.

We can all work at our own pace but still remember to enjoy life along the way. Warrior mentioned this in many videos since he knew how precious the gift of life was… Give that 110% but then sit back and watch what happens. We actually shouldn’t be going and going all the time anyway. I am still on that journey often as it can be a struggle. Get that downtime to relax and then recharge when you’re ready. We will never be able to do everything but give your time to those ideas that truly ignite your 110%.

When I am starting a new project and it’s early enough, I work on it until it’s done. My husband is the same. Some things can wait another day but we get that anxious mindset and just have to finish. Even writing this right now has brought me many distractions but my 110% is to get it done. If I set my mind into accomplishing something, I do it. I have overdone things and might pay the price but never any regrets. Life lessons make us true warriors who fight “’til the end.”

You may disagree some but all of our minds work so differently. I admire those who never panic and just somehow manage to fit in so much everyday. I do know that getting overworked though doesn’t serve me well. I prioritize much better and can still give my 110% in an easier way.

However your life is, give yours but also know it is enough. Maybe it isn’t 110% and that’s o.k. This is your life to live so be that Warrior you need to be. 110%= Your TRUE SELF!

P. S. Photo courtesy of Warrior #1 Comic and artists:

Jim Callahan

J. D. Smith

Comicraft

P.P.S. Here is the radio link for anyone interested:

http://rss.gcnlive.com/americaTonight/?p=archive&cat=all&pgn=4

~~~ I discuss intuition, my book Spirit and Belief, Warrior, and my spiritual experiences. It is 12 min., Oct. 10th, hour 2, 27:11 mark.

www.spiritandbelief.com

β€œIt’s Never One Thing!”

Before I begin today, there’s a few things needing to be acknowledged. First, it’s my daughter’s 13th birthday and also the 5th anniversary of my Warrior logo tattoo. You can find that story blogged or in my book Spirit and Belief. Another memory of five years ago, what an adventure! Now, I have two teenagers– oh my… 😬

O.K., now with the present topic written above. That also seems to be a newer catchphrase of mine and I really think it belongs on a t-shirt (: Think about all those things in your life whether good or bad. It can be people, places, objects, or anything. I will bet the reasons you like or dislike them are many. That’s certainly true for me. Even hobbies or interests give many feelings that are never one thing- like with Warrior.

I often times reference that statement when really discussing him with like-minded folks. You gotta get that celebrity thing out of the way first and learn more. For me years ago, um… that wasn’t an issue. Why would it be? Us fans only saw and knew what was on our T.V’s. What a different world today with all the social media out there. There were always other shows I watched with it being more than one reason why. I know you can think of yours and make a list that fits.

How about a job you have? Whatever it is, I know there are many reasons you have for liking/disliking/having/aspiring etc. that involves something other than one concept. It is anything and everything! Sometimes it really can be one reason but that probably is a rarity. Are you a parent? Why do you live where you are? What foods do you love? How about animals? Just some questions to ask yourself with regards to this huge topic. We all can relate in our lives.

It has been and continues to be quite the evolution with me and Warrior. So many connectors and reasons why he has remained with my own longevity. Just like with any start, we all have a drawing point. That point then expands like it typically does. This is especially true with people. Any relationship begins small with little similarities but then grows into more bigger ones. Of course this can be friendship, romance, physical, or even ya know– spiritual! πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’ͺπŸ»πŸ’™

I have listed so many attributes of mine and Warrior and even made a YouTube video about a pros/cons list. We all need to get to those many reasons that bring us towards something. Maybe there is one thing that beats them all but they are still roped together. It’s like building a house. It needs that foundation to support the rest.

Always have I tried to share my many things with all of you but with Warrior— there isn’t just one! If I had to pick some qualities they would have to be loyalty, honesty, and trust. I know how he felt about those words based on his experiences and yet they parallel mine. I also show the humor since that is so important and maybe one not too many associated with him often. Always find something good, even in naysayers.

The truth is that none of us are one thing at all. If you ask others what they like or admire about you, it’s more than likely one thing. Disliking is different but respect should be many attributes. At least I hope that’s how it is for any of you. Sometimes relationships end over one element and that’s unfortunate. My wish is that they get stronger over time based on how we grow and evolve. Everyone is different though.

I love how honest kids are with stuff. They might like or dislike something for just one reason. How many times have I heard similar answers from my own!? “It’s just funny!” “I just like it.” (Or don’t) “It’s mine!” It just might be that simple for us adults too. For most though, we have more reasons and want more.

My whole life has never been just one thing with most of the passions I pursue. Can you answer the same? If not, no big deal but just always remember to start small and keep that foundation from crumbling…….

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~~ Here is my video from a few years back as to reasons why Warrior is working with me in spirit!

https://youtu.be/Zt0AKfand9Q