“STAND OUT, STAND UP, DELIVER”

Do you warriors know this? Such a slogan and yet is it something we practice in our lives everyday? Warrior certainly did and you can bet he expects that still from us today. I think back on my life years ago and must admit this was not something I did if ever. Sure, there were times I felt different than others and even acted on my own terms but not as dramatic as his words. Standing out? Maybe a little. Standing up? Heck no until I got more courage. Deliver? That involves much more like acting on a decision or following through. Very tough to do.

If Warrior never shook those ropes, worn those arm tassels, or even ran to the ring, would his character have stood out? Maybe but not in the way he wanted and certainly not in the ways us fans always remember. He didn’t listen to naysayers and believed in how to deliver.

He applied all that as well with his personal life and how he wanted to stand out, up, and deliver. Much respect to anyone with enough courage expressing what they know to be true. Your attitude makes all the difference.

Nowadays, I am much better at all of these things but like you, I falter and stumble somewhat. Think of all the things in your life that you “stand up” for. They can be big or small. Maybe you advocate a certain belief or opinion. Perhaps even defending a friend or caring for an animal. To stand up for yourself is THE most important of all.

For me, to “stand out” was always much easier. It is a challenge in many cases but perhaps I exhibited more confidence than I ever thought. I have said many times to not be a “robot” or “clone” and it just always came naturally for me being myself. It’s different for everyone but I never stood out to spite anyone or wanted my claim to fame. I do it because it’s in my blood as a warrior and has always been. I truly believe that to be one of the MANY reasons we work so well together– with him in spirit of course!

This whole deliver thing is the trickiest of all. It’s like when the one count is easy, the two count comes, but that three count sometimes misses the mat. We want to deliver to get the pin but foreign objects fall on our path.

Taking action on what you deliver and how needs to be planned for it to become successful in your life. If I never would’ve had the guts to stand up and confront a teacher who gave me a bad grade on a paper, I couldn’t see that better grade so deserving of my hard work. BTW~~~ this was happening around the same time as #WM6 so can you imagine my emotions??? 😳😬😉

If I never believed myself to stand out, delivering this blog and eventual book Spirit and Belief couldn’t have happened. It is our birthright like Warrior said to do these things without settling for normalcy or mediocrity.

I love the “normal” sometimes but without the delivery of us to stand out and up, it becomes boring and very mundane. Ask yourself what needs to change in your life for you to feel good. Warrior always preached about our lives not just being the 9 to 5 “jobs” but ones which involve creativity that surpasses the “norm.” If you struggle with this, think of activities that really fill you up. Not your office, co-workers, business meetings, or any of that! What inspires you to REALLY stand out, up, and deliver?

My list is quite large and yes, I do make the time. Reading, writing,(of course!) being with my family, swimming, biking, fitness, music, meditation, nature, and it goes on. Think of your list. What comes to mind? 🤔 Even Warrior had other interests besides his paid livelihood.

I am still figuring it out all the time but once that little girl grew into her voice, there was no turning back for me. The delivery part really needs more work but I am doing it everyday. Warrior said: “Do the work” and I have referenced that many times. Your life is different than anyone else’s but in the end, the business deadlines will mean nothing compared to your spirit with no deadlines.

Start now with whatever works for you and by being true to yourself, you’ll get noticed. This blog continues to amaze me and yes, I want to sell the books too but… 📚 there’s that delivery again. I am doing what I love by being different without normalcy and that’s the heart of a Warrior.

Can you honestly ask yourself if standing out, up, and delivering is in your birthright? I can and you know what? IT IS!!! Be that voice and person you know is inside and f’ing get rid of mediocrity. Warrior would say something else but am sure I can’t print it here!

~~~ Kathy

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Holding My OWN

I decided to get inspired by Dana Warrior’s blog post of last week titled: “Warriors Meet Their Match.” First, I did say how Warrior himself always inspired me but now it has become more about his wife Dana. Her words always resonate with me in some way. Second, that takes me to the reason I’m writing today and that is to share my version or story of “Holding My OWN.” I felt compelled somewhat to expand on her words with a little dose of myself mixed in.

Like she said about “not wanting to ruffle feathers,” I feel the same. For the first time EVER, I do have to disagree a teeny tiny bit with her views on friendships– especially women. I adore Dana, you all know I do but being part of this tribe of #TotalWarriors, we all have a story and a voice. She stated with keeping a friendship that if things don’t go right: “the muck is squarely upon you.” I totally understand this however, I GAVE to some friendships and got very little in return. Yes, to be a friend you do have to give but possibly I gave too much.

For years, I beat myself up about so many things but then decided how wrong that was. I will OWN some situations regarding female friends but not all. Some people just need to be let go so we can evolve in a new way. Friendships worth saving need to be 50-50 just like a romance even though both are HARD. We can only try so much until cutting our losses. No one’s circumstances are the same so those women who have a few close BFF’s, you are truly blessed.

People do grow apart for various reasons but some in my life didn’t want to go that extra mile and give equally. No one person should be the “doer” without the other helping pull the rope on the other side.

This brings me to the other topic on those romantic relationships of ours. This blog wouldn’t be true without me mentioning Warrior, right? I am so glad to also have a man who would defend my honor to anyone just like Warrior did for Dana. I must admit though when we first started dating, I hated him doing those little extra things for me. Don’t get me wrong- I secretly loved it but had that same attitude Dana mentioned of: “I can do it myself.” The truth was that I did so much for my independent self back then, I had no idea that a guy– any guy would help me with stuff ever.

I have always prided myself with not being like those other girls living to impress a boy. I dressed the way I wanted, wore my hair the way I liked, and was interested in many things. None of it would ever be to get a boy even if I could or to have more friends either. I would hate being a twin and sorry to any of you out there but it wasn’t written in the stars for me!

Being a “robot” or “clone” isn’t the Warrior way and it never was for me. Sometimes, it still is like that today. We all want to fit in with shared interests but still want to OWN our true nature.

I sure hope my kids absorb some of my “authenticness” into their own being as well. They see how their Dad does little things for me and without feeling complacent, I know it’s him being himself while making me happy. He’ll warm up my coffee or bring me nachos and wine. ☕️🥙🍷Sure, I can do those things but it took me a long time accepting a man still “wooing” his girl.

I remember how it was back in high school from very personal experiences and when Dana and Mattie mention guys not fighting for girls, I get it. It used to be like this: A girl would leave her BFF in a situation almost right away if her BF called. Yep, so true and so sad. On the other hand, a boy would rarely leave his cool guy friends if a girl called. He’d be labeled “hen-pecked” or “whipped.” I sure hope that’s not the case today but with my children on the cusp of this, Mama will have a say!

I will not knock all the guys out there since many behaviors are generational or perhaps not even learned. Much is common sense but some men just don’t know their “place.” They want to please their girl but don’t know how. Women of yesteryear had men doing almost everything for them that nowadays they can do on their own. It is confusing for sure and takes so much work but in the long run, very worth it.

My husband and myself have quite the age difference similar to Warrior and Dana’s but sharing like minded goals should win over any number. For me personally, I am glad to have been near my late twenties when we met. By then I already had a pretty good sense of myself and felt much pride being my OWN woman. I didn’t fall into that category of childhood home, college, then marriage. I know this will serve me well in the future as most women my age are finally learning to not rely on a man for everything. Again, I LOVE the little things my husband does for me but also know they don’t affect my survival.

I was not ready for marriage at that young age of 21 or 22 even though a man’s family I was seeing then wanted us to become more serious. Everyone chooses their own path and based on some marriages I knew of, it would be different for me.

I do OWN my feminine self more now than ever before. No, I was never a “girly girl” who lives for dresses and high heels. I express it when and how I want but don’t feel the need to conform. Dana is right with romantic relationships being about a dance. We do have to give our hearts despite fear of the unknown. My husband is our family’s protector and I can’t imagine being without him. One day if I must be without him, my inner independent warrior woman will have to hold my OWN while remembering that I can.

Holding Your OWN is extremely challenging in these times but necessary in order to thrive. Whatever your role as a man or woman, treat your significant other the way you’d like to be treated despite possible societal ways of the past. My husband and I need to teach our son how to treat a girl properly but I believe the same needs to be said of our daughter.

There are differences of course but once you see someone as your equal, then your partnership will become real. I held my OWN then and will always as is my wish for you.

~~~ Kathy 💖💪🏻🤗

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