Are You a β€œPoser?” πŸ’™πŸ’ͺ🏻

*** My condolences go out to the family of WWE legend “Mr.Wonderful” Paul Orndorff. He was my sister’s favorite heel… Too many great ones now up in “Parts Unknown.” CTE is so serious as one of the “Jims” my husband was friends with for so many years also is suffering with this affliction. Rest In Peace Paul… πŸ’”

Now onto today…

My daughter came outside when I was first writing this story and asked about the title. She said: “Ya know, there’s different meanings to that word.” I said: ” yep, I know.”

So, can you answer that question I just “posed” to you above? Yes, the Ultimate Warrior was posing for that photo shoot as he did for so many others over the years. Of course I am here taking this statement a little further. Would you expect anything less? Do any of you remember the 2007 movie “Wild Hogs?” Well, those guys were called “posers” for pretending to be real bikers. They just wanted a road trip but encountered the Del Fuegos who were actual bikers. Another interesting tidbit from the movie ( yes, I remember since we own and love it) is that they were going to Madrid, New Mexico. That’s MAH-Drid, not Madrid-Spain! It is a real city near Santa Fe, man- who lived there? Hint to those new*** he’s that “poser” above. Spain connects to Warrior also.πŸ˜‰

Have we all been posers at certain times in our lives? Yep, for sure. Was Warrior? If any of you ever watched or knew him, you’d know that answer. For those unaware- he was not BUT am sure deep down did want to fit in with some aspects throughout his life. We do this as posers for acceptance, to be liked, respected, and all that. We may not even be fully aware of what we are doing sometimes which robs our authenticity.

I’ll share a story of mine and it’s a biggie. It’s been swirling in my head a while now and this post is perfect with the topic. Many years ago at my second preschool job ( the one that’s been in a few dreams and blogged about) I was finally eligible for a week’s paid vacation. Most full-timers got this and used it in the summer staggered with others. It was my turn and I was looking forward to doing NOTHING. A staycation was in the works. My co-workers all asked questions about going someplace, getting away from it all, and that tropical fun in the sun stuff. It all sounded great to me but really didn’t happen. I just wanted to sleep in, maybe grab lunch out, swim in my pool, get some sun, workout at a decent time, and stay up later. I know- boring right? But, I didn’t have all those other factors lined up for a vacay with my bestie or even the money to “get away from it all.”

What’s a girl to do? I became a poser and told one horrific lie that slammed out of control. I am no liar so let’s clear that right away forοΏΌ any doubters still not sure of my stories with Warrior. Back then, it was very different. Anyway, this “story” became me visiting my cousin and her husband as we went to the Grand Canyon. This wasn’t true. They both do have Native American blood and he was actually raised on a Hopi Reservation. I said we’d visit that area too but um, no..,

Everyone was fascinated as I had them all, hook line and sinker. Never did I think of the future consequences of not having a tan or even pictures to show. I made sure the backyard got myself sunburned and that I lost my camera on the plane. This was before cell phones with cameras. Oh my, what a choke hold I got myself into but didn’t submit. No idea if anyone believed it all but needless to say, nobody ever asked what I’d do on vacation again. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

Don’t let this happen to you warriors but if you’ve had something similar, you’ll learn about that word of being a poser. I didn’t want them to think I was boring and couldn’t afford a trip like that even though it was true. Single gals are supposed to travel, right? Not this one and I wouldn’t be honest with them. Am sure there were other poser moments but this one wins the match. Can you relate to my story or are you thinking- oh boy, she had issues. You are right if you say issues because my confidence in myself was pretty non-existent back then. It isn’t so much now as it’s a life long battle but I am better as I hope you are too.

Warrior helped me so much when I didn’t even know I needed it. He took that teenage girl ( long before the Grand Canyon story) who still was a poser with little confidence and transformed her into an authentic evolving Warrior of her own. No, I can’t give him full credit and he wouldn’t want it anyway but some credit- yes. It’s o.k. if you’ve been a poser before because once we get to that teenage self, our true self fades away a little. There’s so much more pressure out there in the “real” world. Your true self can come back. If you work hard enough, it will. Even as adults, we are posers trying to be a specific way so others will think we are ultimate when our real selves already are. You just have to love that YOU enough to know the truth.

The Ultimate Warrior and Warrior himself were no posers but fame does make it easier to become one. It isn’t the literal posing but that real aspect of being one of “them” and what we do to get there. If posing, catch yourself and ask what’s more important. Is it being a poser no matter the cost or is it being YOU no matter the risk? Your choice as always. Situations can be different but deep down, you know the right answer. Let’s only be posers for those photographs, not our ways of living.

***Thank you Warrior despite your challenges for showing me what posing is not about and for the realness to be YOU with or without a camera. Strike a pose but only if you hear a “click!”

P.S. I still haven’t been to the Grand Canyon but in 2016, we saw the Badlands on our South Dakota trip. They are the “mini” G.C. to me! Just beautiful, I could look all day!

P.P.S. Yes, another! Every time we go on a bike 🚲 ride, ( real bikes- not motorcycles!) my husband always says : “Wild Hogs!” He really does…

***Check out my website for book info on how Warrior and his energy brought out my intuitive gifts. It’s also on Amazon and other retailers. I write a more spiritual blog there so look me up! I am also on Twitter, YouTube, and a few U.W. Facebook fan pages. πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’œπŸ₯°πŸ™‹πŸ»β€β™€οΈβš‘οΈπŸ“—

Change is Acceptance πŸŽ¨

We can change our physical appearance like the Ultimate Warrior did to his face with war paint but I’m talking deeper changes that need acceptance. Also- to all you ultimate fans out there, I’m not referencing the title belts that would switch waists with a win or loss. Nope, not that either. Although- WMVI did have its share of changes that defied tradition but let’s move on.

Do you handle change well warriors with acceptance or do you fight it? All of us are dealing with extreme change as a result of this worldly virus but the acceptance part is the hardest. So very frustrating indeed… We love our routines and schedules but hate when they get interrupted or changed beyond our control. It’s easy when things are going our way but then something makes us detour. Maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad or maybe it’s just different.

Transitions make up our lives from family, careers, life choices, and all that with some being our choosing. It’s when we don’t or can’t choose which causes us to deny or accept. Warrior’s passing created change in all us fans with acceptance not even an option then. We all am sure have lost loved ones but when death is unexpected at the time, the change creates shock. That shock eventually turns into the reality of acceptance over time but never completely vanishes from our memory. Warrior himself had to accept change from his physical body to an energetically spiritual one. πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’™

I have evolved spiritually these last six years with ways I never fully accepted because of change. Sure, I always did have little things but as with any type of growth, the ripples turn into waves. 🌊 Those littles became bigger and manifested for me in such a beautiful way. My emotions initially were so out of control and I fought that change constantly. Once I surrendered, the acceptance came easier.

Personally, I should be used to change. With living in Ohio, sometimes we have all four seasons in one day!!! Seriously though, how have changes in your life created a better acceptance? Some decisions are excruciatingly hard to accept but there comes a time when we need to. People may live their lives very different from us and change may be worth the risk for them. We need to accept that whether or not in agreement. Remember, respect goes a long way.

As parents, it’s all about change and acceptance. Kids grow and change and us grownups need to accept their growth as part of life. This applies to everyone really and it’s all in the way you handle it. Do I get mad over changes in my life which I can’t control? Absolutely. It’s o.k. to vent and shout and cry and scream. Just don’t live there very long. It’s a challenge letting go of how things used to be, the good ol’ days, or yesteryear. We will always have those close to our hearts but life is worth moving on to see the next chapter. You and your spirit deserve more. Others may not get that chance.

Even businesses don’t keep things the same always. You fans of WWE probably know what I’m talking about here. If any of you are part of a business or run one, am sure you’ve encountered changes that others need to accept. We even change things in our homes, yards, hairstyles, workouts, and all those other minor things. Those of course like the Ultimate Warrior’s many changes over the years are a little easier to accept. It’s the big huge life altering ones that truly test our mental resolve.

Change can also be about compromise which still keeps our hand somewhat in control. Then, there are times when it’s all or nothing. Lately, I’ve been meditating on how to best handle the word acceptance. It’s everywhere just like energy. We do need to see the positive thru the negative but our fighting spirit will resist only for so long. Acceptance brings new change ever so slowly at first. Us humans have a hard time with the negative part of that word and even Warrior did.

My wish today is for all of you to find that good acceptance beyond the change that seems bad. Without it, we will never fully find out what we are truly made of. ~~~ All ultimate GRIT!

P.S. I recently found out more about Lebron James wearing the Ultimate Warrior t-shirt. If anyone had watched some of the news conferences, he’d sport the likes of Sting, Ric Flair, and the Undertaker. His wife packed bags with wrestling shirts. The U.W. shirt was the only one left in his bag. He did say he would’ve worn it even if the Cavs lost! ~~~ So glad I found that out (: πŸ’ͺπŸ»πŸ€

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