Tag: acceptance

You Don’t Belong? Good… 🤷🏻‍♀️👏🏻🥹

A few weeks ago now, we had Patriot Day here in the U.S. Several years back, I had written a post on that exact date. I negated to mention it as I typically do so my many apologies. It needed to be referenced because of the unbelievable milestone of 2️⃣5️⃣ years. That horrific tragedy impacted us all, and we are so incredibly grateful to those men and women who sacrificed their lives for ours. I reflect on the children as well now all grown up or some too young to remember. It showed what a great country we can be while standing united. After all, that is part of our name. I wish we can embody that word of united once more as in many ways, we are not. Let’s not enable a horrific tragedy to bring us together. Let’s BE united anyways, every day. There…. That’s my reflection on Patriot Day’s huge anniversary while striving for unity always in my United States of America. 🇺🇸 ❤️🤍💙🗽🕊️

Just last week, I got my annual renewal subscription to this blog for another year. Next will mark 11. I have to get there, right? I mean~~~ of course as that’s a big spiritual number for me in many ways. It is my master with numerology but I realize that doesn’t resonate with some. No problem. I just know more so 11 will be very cool achieving. I will get double digits here in just a few weeks but more on that then. 2027 will also mark 10 for the book so you’ll be hearing more if you keep reading. I thank you all that are here every week but if new, welcome! I’m grateful for your presence through these words as I always hope they resonate in some fashion.

More pics of Warrior from his WCW days as one more will linger a bit into October. That month brings an assortment of photos as you will have to stay tuned for those. *** Something recently brought to my attention was another event of Warrior’s on my birthday. This one actually happened on that date and wasn’t pre-recorded like many are. By the time we would see anything on TV, it transpired a few weeks prior. Anyways, it was a match with Warrior against Ric Flair who was the WWF champion then. That match was 9/19/92. Wait, that’s when we saw the “ Ultimate Maniacs”form on Superstars! Yep, there’s the whole taping in advance remember. So, I knew Warrior had a few matches with Flair, but not the dates. There was another one in October too. Warrior won both but not the title because both victories were as a result of a DQ so the belt can’t change hands. Fans know this I’m sure. Well, no idea that one match (which another BTW is in a magazine I own) was on my b-day and not pre-taped. How about that? Now, I do have a three count of 9/19. One match, two promos. One wasn’t televised so I can’t watch it. Still cool to know. The magazine photo was from October.

How is everyone doing today? We are into Autumn or Fall here officially where I live. Yesterday was when it changed so the weather will start to be cooler with the leaves 🍁 🍂 turning and falling. We shall see how this season plays out. I wish you all well during these last few months of the year.

To “tag” in a new topic here and to reference the title today, I will share a little of this video recently viewed. This woman has amazing insights and I have followed her a while on YouTube. I’m not over following like I did years ago but sometimes~~~ just need that pick up of a fellow spiritual who gets beyond the surface to the root. That’s me. She totally identifies with some syndromes of being in this field for years as I myself find out to be true. Do you find yourself over trying to get that tribe even though you think you have it? I’m seeking more true and real friends with our families’ move but I see my patterns of overdoing this every time. I get so frustrated and know Warrior struggled with this as well. I realize things need to be appreciated as a blessing, not a curse. If you think negative, that’s what you’ll get. I need to stop doing that so her words totally helped me.

She expressed how some of us need to break those traditional ways and a cycle of people pleasing, fake drama, and how it’s always been done. We want genuine connections but for us~~~ it seems one-sided at times. She gave me hope in knowing I do have a higher purpose, despite some of these friendship struggles that repeat. Maybe many of us spiritual folks (if you are one) simply need more acceptance while still doing the work in ways we know how. Nothing can be forced but without trying a little, we get nowhere. I just have to back off and tag in my Creator a little more. It’s hard for us Virgo perfectionists so I need to give myself a break. Maybe this is one of my great lessons here but I’m still fighting that match. I can’t tap but need to tag…

Can you relate to any of this readers? If not, maybe on some level in your life you see similarities. We require acquaintances but still crave those close people as I do have a few. I’d like a few more though universe. It may not happen because my goals might be in other ways so her thoughts were encouraging. I just might have to keep that video as it was unlike anything else I have heard from others in this field. It’s all a learning process every day. This is my way though with writing, so I get it all out~~~ despite who’s reading. I know Warrior felt the same as he had other outlets outside of wrestling and we all need them. We can’t keep searching for that elusive “thing” or even a “person” when sometimes~~~ even with our actions, acceptance needs to happen. That’s another of my words that’s hard to accept, (pun intended) but surrendering is what my soul can do. You don’t give up but just ask for help. Not where you do nothing but just admit you can’t do it all. There’s a difference between them.

So warriors, that’s my words today. Remember those events of the past and yet accept the now for what it is. If you feel “different” like me, maybe you do need another perspective and to just see yourself in a more positive light. We can do all the work but still need to tag in that person to lift our spirit. Thank you all for reading and enjoy the season where you are.

P.S. While reading this back out loud to myself, my left ear started to ring. Thank you universe for that message I needed to hear. I don’t belong with some but need to believe there are reasons why. The part I was reading concerned acceptance…🤗🤍✨

To Be Courteous 😬🫵🏻🙋🏻‍♀️

This will be a venting post of sorts today, but I just feel like I need to get it off my chest and release. I’ve had so many encounters lately with certain types of situations and the lack of COURTESY amazes me. Some are ongoing but most scenarios occurred recently as I am caught off guard with how to respond. Yes, people need to be accepted but sometimes~ OOF, we need to speak up. I’m not “clotheslining” everyone but just trying to implement more respect and kindness we all deserve.

Where have courtesies gone? I remember Warrior recalling when he and Sting were first tag team partners and that they ” were good hearted guys, we had good manners.” Maybe much of that does depend on how one was raised for sure but later in life to me, it’s just common sense and good thinking. I have mentioned principles (always a factor with me…) and chivalry, but today is just about every day “niceties” that we seem to have forgotten. In this global ever changing world, we teach kids those kind words of graciousness but then as adults, become too bothered to respond. Maybe I’m too “old school” on this but it’s still important, right? Everyone is “BUSY.” That’s like saying you breathed today. 🤨It’s all priorities…

I remember handwriting thank you notes after our wedding. Nowadays, most seem to get a “one size fits all” collective thank you without any personal touch at all. I find this sad but perhaps there is little concern of those writing “snail mail” 🐌 anymore. Let me tell you this though. I am sending out those graduation invites for my daughter just like I did with my son plus party invites and she WILL be writing thank yous. To me, it’s the right thing to do as an acknowledgment to a recipient~~~ a courtesy that takes little time. That 30 minutes you spend on your phone looking at social sites can be spent addressing those much deserved thank yous. It’s not so much the societal expectation as few abide by those etiquettes anymore as it is proper to do like saying, “thank you” or “you’re welcome.” Others can disagree but my heart will always feel this way. Sure, you can visit, call, or even text if convenient but sometimes other work needs to be done.

Warrior wanted always to PERSONALLY thank fans whether it was in person with a handshake, hug, or answering emails. It can seem daunting but there are those of us who feel it necessary although sometimes you might not get any reciprocation. When someone visits your home, you thank them for coming, true? The reverse applies when leaving as you thank the host. We know this and yet forget or just bypass it all together. I know I am also guilty of this if it is somewhere I didn’t want to go or with people I didn’t really want to see. We should still use a courtesy, as I put my feelings aside in those circumstances to do so. We should as well let another know important details like if you will be running late, bringing a guest, etc. We shouldn’t just show up unexpectedly without notice or assuming it’s OK. Sure, there will be enough for one more most likely but we need to physically use our WORDS warriors. That’s just being courteous. 

Just because we are close to someone or by association, doesn’t mean we “help ourselves” to their personal space. Create a healthy boundary and don’t be afraid to let others know. It isn’t about being too guarded to invite another, but they need to realize limits without wearing out that welcome mat. 

I have noticed with many people that if you give an inch, they take a mile and not in a good way. This means others might take advantage if given the opportunity you have bestowed upon them. My lesson learned is to refrain from overcompensating just to please and if it brings discord, so be it. What others think of you is none of your business, remember that. Warrior certainly did as he proved along his life journey. There are those who say he did not abide much by way of “wrestling courtesies” through the years and maybe he does regret that now. He does know all that and more in spirit but we need these experiences to grow. It may not be as groups, society, or families want but our gut tells us otherwise and it’s always a choice.

Here’s a quote I retweeted on Twitter last week: ” The simple truth… We all just want to be accepted, respected, appreciated, heard, and loved.” It’s by Samantha Woodbeck. Isn’t that the truth though? I will add to that by saying: ” for who we ARE.” Not trying to change or even judge but just letting it BE. Yes, I know it’s important to speak up in some situations but the reality is- people don’t change, they evolve. We can question behavior but they will still be them as we will be us- regardless. Like my one sister recently told me: ” you know I’m a snoop.” I used to be in some ways and even though she was honest, may never conform to a new thinking. I did correct her on a few topics but then later on realized despite her being a grown adult, that part of her forgetting courtesies will still be there unless SHE takes action to rectify it.

I think that photo of the Ultimate Warrior below fits as I had planned using another one (very typical… ) His face shows what I’ve been feeling lately! We need to pick our battles indeed and some wars (even on courtesy) may never be fully won. Just continue being YOU with right minded intentions, while others do them. They have their life to live but you can do better as it’s always a learning process every day. Let’s not just RSVP to certain invites but do all of life in a respectful courteous way. I even get reminder texts for appointments. That’s nice too. My vet still sends reminder postcards in the mail! 🐶🐱📭

P.S. Warrior also mentioned being courteous to the veterans in his early WWF days. Despite their verbal attacks, he still responded positively to them. I bet that was a smaller ultimate challenge back then!

P.P.S. I have a correction to make. Meditation began for me 9 years ago, not 8. Just like yoga did for me. Both in late 2015… Math is not my thing. 😜🤷🏻‍♀️🧘‍♀️🪷Boy, the numbers this year though with SO much coming…

Are You a “Poser?” 💙💪🏻

*** My condolences go out to the family of WWE legend “Mr.Wonderful” Paul Orndorff. He was my sister’s favorite heel… Too many great ones now up in “Parts Unknown.” CTE is so serious as one of the “Jims” my husband was friends with for so many years also is suffering with this affliction. Rest In Peace Paul… 💔

Now onto today…

My daughter came outside when I was first writing this story and asked about the title. She said: “Ya know, there’s different meanings to that word.” I said: ” yep, I know.”

So, can you answer that question I just “posed” to you above? Yes, the Ultimate Warrior was posing for that photo shoot as he did for so many others over the years. Of course I am here taking this statement a little further. Would you expect anything less? Do any of you remember the 2007 movie “Wild Hogs?” Well, those guys were called “posers” for pretending to be real bikers. They just wanted a road trip but encountered the Del Fuegos who were actual bikers. Another interesting tidbit from the movie ( yes, I remember since we own and love it) is that they were going to Madrid, New Mexico. That’s MAH-Drid, not Madrid-Spain! It is a real city near Santa Fe, man- who lived there? Hint to those new*** he’s that “poser” above. Spain connects to Warrior also.😉

Have we all been posers at certain times in our lives? Yep, for sure. Was Warrior? If any of you ever watched or knew him, you’d know that answer. For those unaware- he was not BUT am sure deep down did want to fit in with some aspects throughout his life. We do this as posers for acceptance, to be liked, respected, and all that. We may not even be fully aware of what we are doing sometimes which robs our authenticity.

I’ll share a story of mine and it’s a biggie. It’s been swirling in my head a while now and this post is perfect with the topic. Many years ago at my second preschool job ( the one that’s been in a few dreams and blogged about) I was finally eligible for a week’s paid vacation. Most full-timers got this and used it in the summer staggered with others. It was my turn and I was looking forward to doing NOTHING. A staycation was in the works. My co-workers all asked questions about going someplace, getting away from it all, and that tropical fun in the sun stuff. It all sounded great to me but really didn’t happen. I just wanted to sleep in, maybe grab lunch out, swim in my pool, get some sun, workout at a decent time, and stay up later. I know- boring right? But, I didn’t have all those other factors lined up for a vacay with my bestie or even the money to “get away from it all.”

What’s a girl to do? I became a poser and told one horrific lie that slammed out of control. I am no liar so let’s clear that right away for any doubters still not sure of my stories with Warrior. Back then, it was very different. Anyway, this “story” became me visiting my cousin and her husband as we went to the Grand Canyon. This wasn’t true. They both do have Native American blood and he was actually raised on a Hopi Reservation. I said we’d visit that area too but um, no..,

Everyone was fascinated as I had them all, hook line and sinker. Never did I think of the future consequences of not having a tan or even pictures to show. I made sure the backyard got myself sunburned and that I lost my camera on the plane. This was before cell phones with cameras. Oh my, what a choke hold I got myself into but didn’t submit. No idea if anyone believed it all but needless to say, nobody ever asked what I’d do on vacation again. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don’t let this happen to you warriors but if you’ve had something similar, you’ll learn about that word of being a poser. I didn’t want them to think I was boring and couldn’t afford a trip like that even though it was true. Single gals are supposed to travel, right? Not this one and I wouldn’t be honest with them. Am sure there were other poser moments but this one wins the match. Can you relate to my story or are you thinking- oh boy, she had issues. You are right if you say issues because my confidence in myself was pretty non-existent back then. It isn’t so much now as it’s a life long battle but I am better as I hope you are too.

Warrior helped me so much when I didn’t even know I needed it. He took that teenage girl ( long before the Grand Canyon story) who still was a poser with little confidence and transformed her into an authentic evolving Warrior of her own. No, I can’t give him full credit and he wouldn’t want it anyway but some credit- yes. It’s o.k. if you’ve been a poser before because once we get to that teenage self, our true self fades away a little. There’s so much more pressure out there in the “real” world. Your true self can come back. If you work hard enough, it will. Even as adults, we are posers trying to be a specific way so others will think we are ultimate when our real selves already are. You just have to love that YOU enough to know the truth.

The Ultimate Warrior and Warrior himself were no posers but fame does make it easier to become one. It isn’t the literal posing but that real aspect of being one of “them” and what we do to get there. If posing, catch yourself and ask what’s more important. Is it being a poser no matter the cost or is it being YOU no matter the risk? Your choice as always. Situations can be different but deep down, you know the right answer. Let’s only be posers for those photographs, not our ways of living.

***Thank you Warrior despite your challenges for showing me what posing is not about and for the realness to be YOU with or without a camera. Strike a pose but only if you hear a “click!”

P.S. I still haven’t been to the Grand Canyon but in 2016, we saw the Badlands on our South Dakota trip. They are the “mini” G.C. to me! Just beautiful, I could look all day!

P.P.S. Yes, another! Every time we go on a bike 🚲 ride, ( real bikes- not motorcycles!) my husband always says : “Wild Hogs!” He really does…

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Change is Acceptance 🎨

We can change our physical appearance like the Ultimate Warrior did to his face with war paint but I’m talking deeper changes that need acceptance. Also- to all you ultimate fans out there, I’m not referencing the title belts that would switch waists with a win or loss. Nope, not that either. Although- WMVI did have its share of changes that defied tradition but let’s move on.

Do you handle change well warriors with acceptance or do you fight it? All of us are dealing with extreme change as a result of this worldly virus but the acceptance part is the hardest. So very frustrating indeed… We love our routines and schedules but hate when they get interrupted or changed beyond our control. It’s easy when things are going our way but then something makes us detour. Maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad or maybe it’s just different.

Transitions make up our lives from family, careers, life choices, and all that with some being our choosing. It’s when we don’t or can’t choose which causes us to deny or accept. Warrior’s passing created change in all us fans with acceptance not even an option then. We all am sure have lost loved ones but when death is unexpected at the time, the change creates shock. That shock eventually turns into the reality of acceptance over time but never completely vanishes from our memory. Warrior himself had to accept change from his physical body to an energetically spiritual one. 🙏🏻💙

I have evolved spiritually these last six years with ways I never fully accepted because of change. Sure, I always did have little things but as with any type of growth, the ripples turn into waves. 🌊 Those littles became bigger and manifested for me in such a beautiful way. My emotions initially were so out of control and I fought that change constantly. Once I surrendered, the acceptance came easier.

Personally, I should be used to change. With living in Ohio, sometimes we have all four seasons in one day!!! Seriously though, how have changes in your life created a better acceptance? Some decisions are excruciatingly hard to accept but there comes a time when we need to. People may live their lives very different from us and change may be worth the risk for them. We need to accept that whether or not in agreement. Remember, respect goes a long way.

As parents, it’s all about change and acceptance. Kids grow and change and us grownups need to accept their growth as part of life. This applies to everyone really and it’s all in the way you handle it. Do I get mad over changes in my life which I can’t control? Absolutely. It’s o.k. to vent and shout and cry and scream. Just don’t live there very long. It’s a challenge letting go of how things used to be, the good ol’ days, or yesteryear. We will always have those close to our hearts but life is worth moving on to see the next chapter. You and your spirit deserve more. Others may not get that chance.

Even businesses don’t keep things the same always. You fans of WWE probably know what I’m talking about here. If any of you are part of a business or run one, am sure you’ve encountered changes that others need to accept. We even change things in our homes, yards, hairstyles, workouts, and all those other minor things. Those of course like the Ultimate Warrior’s many changes over the years are a little easier to accept. It’s the big huge life altering ones that truly test our mental resolve.

Change can also be about compromise which still keeps our hand somewhat in control. Then, there are times when it’s all or nothing. Lately, I’ve been meditating on how to best handle the word acceptance. It’s everywhere just like energy. We do need to see the positive thru the negative but our fighting spirit will resist only for so long. Acceptance brings new change ever so slowly at first. Us humans have a hard time with the negative part of that word and even Warrior did.

My wish today is for all of you to find that good acceptance beyond the change that seems bad. Without it, we will never fully find out what we are truly made of. ~~~ All ultimate GRIT!

P.S. I recently found out more about Lebron James wearing the Ultimate Warrior t-shirt. If anyone had watched some of the news conferences, he’d sport the likes of Sting, Ric Flair, and the Undertaker. His wife packed bags with wrestling shirts. The U.W. shirt was the only one left in his bag. He did say he would’ve worn it even if the Cavs lost! ~~~ So glad I found that out (: 💪🏻🏀

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