No Excuses or Expectations

Before I start today’s blog, just a huge personal THANKS to everyone who was viewed, liked, or followed mywarriorwritings these past 13.5 months! This blog has gone internationally to 21 countries and 5 continents and I am extremely grateful to all of you! Not just because of this holiday season but everyday…

Some of you may already know but I have recently published a book called SPIRIT and BELIEF—How the Ultimate Warrior Led Me to Trust Intuition. I am excited to announce my new website: www.spiritandbelief.com where I will be starting a new blog soon.

Please continue to follow me and sign up to receive the blog every week. Warrior will forever inspire me but I am moving in a different direction with topics such as meditation, a psychic vs. a medium, spirit guides, and others.

Don’t worry Warrior fans~~I won’t let you down! You can also find info on my book there as well or order thru me directly! I still hope to connect with many of you so please stay in touch. This blog has a few weeks to go…..

Our whole lives are based on constant opinions of ourselves, others, what to say, do, think, and feel all the time. This becomes quite exhausting for the brain and yet it remains always. I believe as a Warrior that we should question but stop judging and just agree to disagree. There will continually be people who will never see our point of view and vice versa but we can and should defend our position while remaining who we are.

I always felt the need to justify or explain my feelings and actions when the truth is— I shouldn’t. We like what we like and choose our own path. If we don’t want to do something, no means no without an explanation! We shouldn’t place expectations on people and assume it is their job to do favors for us. We need to do the work ourselves like Warrior always did. I am guilty of not asking for help when needed but I don’t rely on others when I know it isn’t necessary most of the time.

Warrior would mention how “Mr. Resistance” or “Mr. Ugly” would be present everyday. I guess for me it would be “Ms.” instead of “Mr.” but this is our ego talking. It will always be there telling you that you can’t do something, you’re not capable, you’re not good enough, and much more. We need to stop listening to the ugly and resist that naysayer who brings us down.

There are no lists of excuses as to why you shouldn’t try to improve your life but your expectations need to be within your OWN perspective and maybe you will exceed them! Once we get rid of those expectations we place on others, things will get easier. I know this is true for me and how I looked at situations. I got rid of my excuses and set my own expectations while not expecting much in return which brought about my book! This all opened the door to a new way of thinking for me so the ugly resistance stays away.

This is how I identify with Warrior and how I apply his principles in my life. There shouldn’t be pressure to conform with how everyone is doing something. We can make the right decision for ourselves and shouldn’t be judged. Sometimes I forget this depending on the circumstance but more times than not, I come back to my beliefs in self and what is best for me and my family.

Minding our OWN business is hard and takes much patience to do when our advice isn’t warranted or asked. Just like the reverse is true of others who shouldn’t spend so much time and energy worrying about family or friends that make a choice not to their liking. I’m not saying to not care or show little interest in others activities but we can take out so much stress when we concentrate on important matters.

We can share when we want but when we don’t, that should be o.k. too. For some this becomes a negative quality how we aren’t doing what they think is best. This seems so confusing but acceptance needs to be the answer. I have grown so much into a true warrior, some days it fills me with amazement. We shouldn’t have excuses for our beliefs just like we shouldn’t place expectations on others to conform.

~~~ Always be grateful and thankful for who and what you truly are. It is not selfish to do so! Embrace gratitude this holiday!!! 🍂🦃🥧🍽🏈🧡☺️👍

Inside Out~~~Warrior Style

We aren’t always the family that goes to the movie theater as soon as a new release comes out. Sometimes it’s more comfortable renting one or watching Netflix at home. A few years back, the kids really wanted to see Inside Out and I did too. When I saw previews of it with all those emotions, my feelings were thinking how that was me.

The animated cartoons of today are definitely not like when I was young and the messages resonate more with adults. In some ways this is good because of the broader appeal for families. Some adults can’t tolerate the kid movies and find them agonizing to sit through although I never did. Disney and Pixar nowadays know exactly how to get everybody loving their films along with the characters.

Inside Out’s theme I feel is complex to explain with very young children and mine being the ages they were, still didn’t quite get it. The symbolism and metaphors come so natural to me like always but describing how sadness saved the day was tugging at my heart. I identified with its nature considering the timing of Warrior’s passing.

What kid wants to believe literally that they need sadness in order to feel joy? Even as grown-ups, we don’t really want that either but we know it is true. Obviously from my experiences I needed to cry especially concerning Warrior in order to release and vent. Sadness is a very real part of our inner psyche and shouldn’t be ignored or brushed aside. My emotions tend to go in extremes and it isn’t healthy but I have learned how to manage them better and am stronger for it.

Warrior always made my emotions feel like they were out of this hemisphere and sometimes it became impossible to reel them in. I know a part of me will always be this way, it is who I am and we don’t change. Inside Out shows that we need all these feelings equally to balance out the others, even sadness.

I kinda wished humor would’ve been in there since it isn’t quite the same as joy. It really stands out on its own but the others are quite right. The characters became so real because we could imagine our brain going through events even though it was an eleven year old girl. Our emotions do show whether we want them inside or out and as a warrior, I know how real they can be even in a cartoon. 😀😳😡🙄😥

The Eyedrops Commercial

There are always certain things that evoke strong emotions in people from time to time. We all know songs, movies, objects, or experiences that affect us. Yes, some commercials even will if they are about a particular subject but eyedrops— how could that be?

This commercial has been around now a few years and I still remember the first time I saw it on t.v. Everything at that time seemed to get to me because of my very fragile state in dealing with Warrior’s passing. I must say this commercial and my first reaction to it was so strange yet very necessary.

These poor people who cannot produce their own tears and have to get a prescription, I can’t imagine ever needing that in my lifetime! I would probably be a millionaire by bottling the billions of tears I’ve shed over the years. The month of April 2014 seemed like a never ending Niagara Falls for me. 😢💦

When I saw the ad, I started laughing. At first it was just an ironic little giggle considering how I was feeling then but out of nowhere it became uncontrollable side-splitting laughter! This surprised the heck out of me. 😂🤣 Good thing nobody was home. I laughed so hard, I cried. It was the first good cry in such a long time that I couldn’t remember when I laughed that hard.

I felt bad by my reaction for people who have this disease but it just all came spilling out. This commercial seemed to air at around the same time each day for what seemed like weeks. I had the t.v. on during my workout and that ad became such a routine. The second time I saw it, I cried. So very typical to have these roller coaster emotions of mine. It didn’t seem to be ironic or funny anymore and the sobs came like they had been weeks before.

This experience had its ups and downs just like my grief for Warrior and sometimes we can’t control it. I still see this commercial today and smile remembering how it first made me feel. I don’t cry but it is funny how something so different like an unexpected commercial can trigger tons of emotion just like someone who was so different did and still does for me. 👁🙏🏻

The Halloween Costume

Happy early Halloween! 👻🎃 I actually have a story that I’ve been waiting to post for this holiday! Am sure you can figure this out already but remember how I was three years ago…..
Halloween at both my kids schools in 2014 was emotional since it was the last year for both and endings are so tough. 🙁 My son was in his final year at the intermediate school and this was the last parade for him. Let’s just say it was a good thing I saw him first before other costumes came my way…

As I was watching the kids parade with their classes, I spotted a boy with this big black wig on. That was all I could see but when he came closer, I knew he was the Ultimate Warrior and my emotions went berserk! I just stared trying so hard containing the volcano erupting inside me. He had on a nude bodysuit with muscles, neon armbands, a belt around his waist, and fringe boots. No face paint though— not allowed!!

Never would I have expected this despite Warrior’s passing six months prior. I immediately wanted to know the history with this boy. Was his Dad a fan? How did they put this all together? Why did this boy agree? So many unanswered questions as usual. I realized the kids paraded outside and followed the connecting sidewalk to the middle school. All of the other parents were leaving and heading for the parking lot but not me.

I stayed determined to see this boy one more time dressed as the Ultimate Warrior despite being the only mom still there. It seemed like an eternity before they returned but I kept my composure and pushed those tears back. 😳😬😥
I can’t imagine what those kids were thinking seeing one crazy Mom still hanging around for these last few moments of their Halloween parade. In front of the boy was someone dressed as a gorilla so that made me smile! My mind always went to the sad feeling since it was way too soon but afterwards, I knew the happy and what it truly meant seeing that boy as the Ultimate Warrior on that day. Sometimes, I felt so alone with my feelings about Warrior but this parade with that boy reminded me I wasn’t alone. ❤️

P.S. May this Halloween bring you more treats than tricks and treasure these memories always!!!!

Nicknames

If we don’t go by a nickname, we probably know somebody who does. My siblings and I do but I have known plenty of people who prefer their longer birth name. I’m not that fond of mine and prefer the shortened version. Warrior even changed his altogether!!Sometimes we use nicknames to remember someone easier or by association.

I loved reading how Warrior had nicknames for his girls, including Dana. When my kids were babies I called them sweet names that just came out and they stuck- at least for a while. My son was “sir boy” or “baby sir” and my daughter was “beauty” or “little dolly.”

Once I had watched many of Warrior’s matches in their entirety, some nicknames came to mind but only after seeing them a few times. I would never notice the crowd, background, or signs people held since Warrior held all my attention. 😬😊 Again, humor comes into play with many fans or outside forces during the matches that resulted in nicknames for me to remember.

After the Ultimate Warrior defeated Honky Tonk Man for the Intercontinental Title in Summerslam ‘88, they wrestled again that December. I nicknamed that “The Cotton Candy match” since the cotton candy man is so close to the ring. I know they no longer do this but I laugh every single time! What concentration those athletes must have had to ignore all that!!! 😂

At the beginning of Summerslam ‘89 against Rick Rude, someone holds up a “Hi Kathy” sign! I never saw that the first time but now that will forever be the “Kathy match” for me. 💖 I love this older woman sitting ringside who cheers the Ultimate Warrior on in his Main Event match against Ted DiBiase for the heavyweight title. That has become “the Grandma match” for me and I love her enthusiasm! The girl next to her even has on an Indiana sweatshirt.

Nicknames can be funny or endearing depending on how we interpret them but they make us remember in a great way. My mom always called me “Bright Eyes” and I like to think that is so special for me now more than ever with Warrior and his girls sharing beautiful brown eye color. 👁👁👁👁 I love nicknames and how they make me feel even though with my memory and Warrior, I will never forget.

Yes, it is still funny!

I firmly believe things that were funny years ago are still today. Some people don’t or just move on from “younger” ways of thinking but my brain doesn’t and never will. Everyone can remember events in our lives that bring a smile, happiness, or tears of laughter and we never forget them. 😂

Sometimes we have to put the seriousness or sadness aside and focus on the humor. My brother and I did that plenty when we watched WWF (yikes!) back then and became interested in the characters and drama. Now, it seems to be pulling at the psyche too much for me to handle. Some storylines weren’t funny at all and shocked the crap out of me! 😬😳 I was the ultimate fan for many years— craziness and all!

When I watch Warrior’s greatest matches on his Ultimate Collection DVD, I am not sad anymore but sometimes catch myself pressing the pause button. I watch to keep feeling inspired and my funny bone goes haywire! Most will see Warrior’s “Crash the Plane” promo as insane and it is but I laugh through the whole thing. Even though my teenage self was raging back then, I still got the humor and do today. Good thing I wasn’t a child at the time since I would’ve been scared thinking about a plane crash! ✈️

The format of the shows changed so much with the times and still does. It reels you in and gets you hooked. My brother and I were entertained plenty and will always have our memories which I cherish. He teases me tons about things he knows I hated but it’s all good. I am grateful my brain finds the humor amid all the insanity, even long ago.

Society has evolved with what the public finds entertaining nowadays and my “old school” brain won’t absorb it all. So glad I am not of this generation of such extreme stunts but I understand its appeal. Maybe kids watching WWE today would find yesteryear’s stars boring but it was enough for me. Lots of outrageous stimulation for this girl that I can still recall. Warrior was enough for me— crazy, exciting and just the motivation I needed. I became a fan and will remain one who will forever be “unrecreateable!”

Spirit and Belief

My book is now available thru Amazon, Kindle, and Barnes and Noble! Balboa Press did an awesome job and you can find it there too (: I am beyond grateful for this amazing and humbling experience that will continue with all the warrior and intuitives out there.
Your intuition is so powerful and can be amazing if you trust the process. Readers of my blog, many new things about spiritual gifts are included plus some stories I have never blogged about before.
Once my new website is up and running, I hope to connect with many of you there as I hope to inspire and educate on what I have learned.
This blog will continue a little longer as I still have Warrior connections to share! Find me on twitter and YouTube as well. Thank you to anyone searching for answers about the spirit world as Warrior’s spirit will live forever. I will always believe!!!
💖📗👊🏻🤗💪🏻~~~ Kathy

The Missing Tuna Can

( and… a feather!)

How can these two items fit together in a story? I never even thought of sharing this silly day but sometimes, everyone needs a good laugh! 😂
Last spring, I was checking Twitter one Saturday morning and someone named Jay had posted an old video of Warrior. I watched it, hit like, and then we started a conversation. This went back and forth for a few minutes and I loved reliving old Warrior memories. 💖
Later, my husband decided to take our dog for a walk and I went along. Midway thru the neighborhood, there was a blue jay feather near my feet. I didn’t pick it up but smiled knowing Jay was a fan of Warrior just like me.
Afterward, we went to the carpet remnant store to get some pieces for our basement. The owner loved our dog that reminded him of a previous dog he had who was also part Australian shepherd. Warrior’s dog Daisy was an Australian shepherd but onto the rest of the story…….
We had to fold down our back seats to fit the carpet remnant in and then a can of tuna rolled right onto the ground! 🐟We just laughed thinking how long that had. been there and how odd it seemed. Then, I remembered the missing tuna can about a month prior!! I had come back from the store and couldn’t find it anywhere. Tuna was on my receipt but it just disappeared. Guess it got stuck between the seats. I was so frustrated since I really wanted a tuna fish sandwich! ):
Needless to say, I put that can of tuna on the dashboard in front of me for the drive home so it wouldn’t roll away this time! I had to control my inner laughter with this can of tuna staring at me…. My husband knew what I’d be having for lunch and no– it didn’t expire!
Most Warrior fans know how he ate tuna right out of the can but I didn’t buy it for that reason. 😬 I must admit that eating it out of the can isn’t that bad but it really needs a little something like Ranch or mayo…… I wonder if Warrior would be laughing too? 🤔😜

The Black Birds

I can’t believe it has been almost a year since I began this blog! Wow~~~ never did I think at the time my writings could become a BOOK which is being published soon… 📗This blog will change somewhat as I will be getting a website but more on that later on…..

As you can tell, the title does not really match up with the photo but I assure you, birds do visit this tree. That day they came opened up many things for me so now comes the story!

Last year before I started the blog, I really began thinking about ways to share my stories but didn’t know how. I looked up some info on websites that accept short stories but still wasn’t sure. Since mine are about Warrior, the wrestling angle is what I pursued! WWE is way out of my league and really— who would be interested in my writings about the Ultimate Warrior in spirit? Yes, I kept thinking that way~~ A LOT… Finally, my brain thought the magazine route could work and I wondered if any opportunity existed there.

One day I decided to email an editor of a very popular magazine that still exists today. I never even thought of their guidelines or criteria at all! I just sat on my couch and told this editor some of my experiences. Who was this girl with such courage? Guess she became the new me, intuitive and all!

I had my sliding screen door open and kept hearing all these birds. My eyes and fingers were glued to my phone as those birds became louder and louder. I finished and sent the email without really thinking about it at all.

As I walked past the door, I saw what seemed like hundreds of birds in my backyard pear tree. 🌳😳 Some were at the feeder, some in the tree, and some high in the branches squawking incessantly. They were all black birds and I had never seen anything like this before! I just stared at them and couldn’t understand their eccentric behavior. It seemed to be like an apocalypse or something since the whole tree was shaking.

I already had bird encounters from the summer and after watching them for about a minute I realized what this could mean. Immediately my brain went to the email and thought sending it was a mistake. What was I thinking? Were these birds telling me a message through their antics? A few minutes after they landed, off they flew in different directions. The tree was quiet and bare.

This story can be interpreted in many ways but I will share what I believe it means for me. First, if you receive any kind of sign your emotions will guide how it works which might be different than someone else. Second, you might ask for a sign before making a big decision and get one as guidance or maybe a warning. Third, birds are messengers (of course!) but some view blackbirds as negative energy or evil. The Spirit World would never send you anything that makes you feel unsafe or afraid.

I related this experience to me not asking for a sign and getting a message afterward. It’s like when you act before you think! I believe they were telling me the magazine was the wrong idea and to think harder of how to share my stories. I also think they were showing me protection which is a spiritual trait of blackbirds, whatever the outcome of this email could be. They wanted me to trust that everything would be ok.

I let it all go but then later in the day an email came to my inbox from the magazine editor. I didn’t want to open it but really all he could say was no— right? Any other negativity needed to be let go as well. As it turns out, he was so sweet and explained their procedures for contributing articles. He wished me the best of luck and found my experiences interesting! I was so touched and knew those blackbirds were right. Even though that magazine wasn’t the path for me, protection was given despite the outcome.

Those birds never shook that tree again but they did remind me of Warrior shaking the ropes to get noticed all those years ago… Look to those blackbirds for good and not evil. I know the Universe helped me out so always interpret messages that fit even if you need to see or hear it loud and clear!!!

P.S. Thank you all for following or reading my blog this past year! I appreciate it tons and am looking forward to seeing my book published! It is called :
~~~Spirit and Belief
~~~ How the Ultimate Warrior led me to trust intuition 💖

Never Give Up!

I mentioned last week about doing things for yourself but we also need to remember to keep that true mentality of a warrior. He had many times early in his career when giving up seemed like the best thing to do. Warrior and Sting were in situations where the opportunities were slim and yet they kept going and going and going…… Never giving up for me has always been such a huge part of my life.

I have said many times that the qualities of being a warrior are vast and not giving up is right up at the top. I can’t possibly list all the things in my life that resulted in a “no quitting” attitude. Friendships, fitness, jobs, schoolwork, baking, and the list goes on! 👊🏻🤔I am not very good at baking and frequently burn the simplest cookies but then succeed more with harder recipes. 🍪Why does that happen? Guess I need more stimulation and some easy things seem boring! Sounds like many experiences I had and continue to have today.

I realize my brain and inner self can accept challenges despite the outcome. Be a warrior that challenges yourself everyday and set those goals, you will be glad you did! We can all recognize those times when something just isn’t working and yet we still want to try so hard to stay in the game. Look for those signs that point in the opposite direction saying let go or move on. This is very difficult but we need to figure out what is in our best interests and what we can detach from.

I can’t say give up because there are reasons people and events pop up into our lives and how we handle it matters. It is hard to hold on the way we need to in our lives— not too tight but not too loose either. I have fought many situations but continue on because that is what warriors are all about.

We fight for stuff that is important to us and means something. It is so daunting ending anything for me but I can’t look at it as defeat. We learn with no regrets and move on. Life is all about the lessons we learn along the way.

It is great to follow our passions but when we encounter road blocks, we need to be level- headed and make the best decision. Giving up can’t be an option, we always need to strive for the better. I can become inspired with the littlest things that will keep me going. Always will I remember what or who is worth the fight and how endurance makes me stronger. I am a warrior who never gives up and you should be one too!! 👍👋