Are you a hugger? Maybe not but this idea was sorta swirling around for a bit so I am bringing it to our writing arena today. It’s also been an emotional time lately for me so this seems fitting. My sister from Washington and her family came for a brief visit to mourn a past loved one of my brother-in-law’s. My niece and great niece also came and I had such fun seeing that lil’ baby of hers. Everybody hugs or does a similar greeting as I am a hugger. OK, not as much as I used to be as they are given out quite selectively anymore. We all need space to be and some of us need a breather.
Warrior’s last few days involved many hugs, handshakes, pats on the back, and all that. Some do those same type of hugs with a few pats on the back but I would tease those who do. I know, I know~ it’s just how they do it or who they are but sometimes it just, I dunno- doesn’t feel genuine. They might mean well but it feels obligatory. If I give that to another, it isn’t my typical sentiment. You will know a real hug when or if you receive one from me. If it’s someone I truly CARE about and they mean much to someone I know, it will be different. It does depend for sure and just because you have a title like certain family members, you still may just get a small one.
I even know people who come at me way across the room with arms open like it’s expected. I do reciprocate, but it’s one of those side hugs with a brief pat. Again, that’s just them but it isn’t nor should it be all of us. Don’t you wish (at least I do) that those real moments of authenticity can be treasured more? Just being in the moment with another who means a great deal and giving each the space to be can become truly rewarding. I have often imagined greeting in a way where time seems to stop and no other sounds can be heard. You embrace a person who returns your affection and there are no words. Just that close interaction is enough to share for that brief time. I’m not trying to be sad or even mushy here, but really think about this if you can.
We always speak or say those “how are ya?” statements or anything similar but we don’t take the time to allow the space of receiving and just be… My Grandpa gave those giant bear hugs to many and he truly meant it. All us kids still talk about them today. Several years later, of course “bearhugs” meant something entirely different to me besides my Grandpa! His involved no submission though, but did involve space to be. I don’t know of anyone else who gave those out but we felt that love and connection which isn’t there with some who hug differently. He even hugged me that way in a dream back then. 😴
I remember when I first saw my energy healer a few years ago now. After our very first session, I was so emotional and reached out to hug her afterwards. She rebuked and said how that isn’t what she does because of the residual energy. Practitioners need to clear that and well, I do too. It’s not good or bad, but just another space that has to be set free if you will. I did email her apologizing for I had no idea but she wasn’t upset at all. She has a gift, and it can become draining on many levels. I totally understood when she explained more and yes, we ALL have energy everywhere. I’m now a little more reserved with who I share or give to. It’s not healthy to keep another’s energy so I am learning always. You can feel differently of course but I am affected so care needs to be taken.
If you’re not a hugger, that’s OK but any gesture of good intention should be valued or at least meant by both. We do get caught up in so many moments with people and what is expected that we often forgot to be us during those times. I’m not saying to be overdramatic but as with many other topics, society shouldn’t dictate our actions. Warrior knew all about that. 😉 There are those times I would go to in my mind and heart about what I would say or do when meeting Warrior years ago or even those last few of his life. I have said this before but now, I would love that space to be and look him in the eyes to say what I tell myself often:“I get it.” Don’t worry, I would not be a stalker as some of you could be thinking. I just know what I know.
I understand because I do and I know he would appreciate that. I always would want to say so much, but would only say a few heartfelt words like:“Thank you Warrior” as so many chanted at his Hall of Fame. But, that isn’t meant to be physically~ only spiritually now. However you initiate or respond to another’s gesture, just make sure it is genuine although we will still feel that obligatory pull. It just won’t be the same as it once was or with someone else. Relationships might come and go or be close then not but you get to decide. Give them space, but also allow yourself to have it as well. It can be difficult when we are not on the same page when it comes to different forms of affection. I do hope you can both come to some sort of agreement despite a possible awkward situation. I’ve been there with many but sometimes, you can just ask. When you are in alignment it is beautiful and you will feel it in the most profound ways. 🤍
So, my wish is that with your sentiments, perhaps you can give or be allowed space to just be with another for a time longer than that brief pat or quick handshake. If it isn’t part of your perception, no biggie but it is for me. I am trying but again, it is with those select few deserving that bring me joy into this stage of my life. I give you space to feel and just be with the ones who matter most. I get it…
P.S. I DO know most guys give that pat on the back hug often. You will know if it is truly authentic or not… Warrior, Vince, and Triple H? You bet…
P.P.S. Just like before, once I decide on a title~ I start to see a word everywhere. The word SPACE was in a meditation called: ” holding space” AND- while listening to a podcast on this Animal Communicator- he says to:” hold space for your pet…” Really. I can’t make this up people! 🏻🥰👍￼￼￼￼￼￼￼￼