We make assumptions all the time about everyone and everything. I’m gonna use that photo you see of a young Jim Hellwig training as a bodybuilder. Let’s see how a typical GUY conversation would go: (hypothetically)
Guy #1 “Look at him, I could be ripped like that!”
Guy #2 “He’s probably all fake or is all doped up.”
I could list more but won’t. They would either aspire to have that body or be jealous of it. **Let’s see how a typical GIRL conversation would go: (hypothetically again and of course a little different…)
Girl #1 ” OMG, he is so HOT!” ( or insert another word of choice.)
Girl #2 “Are you kidding? He probably thinks he’s all that and has such an ego!”
I could list more again but won’t. They would either think he’s super hot or think he’s an egotist.
What would your assumption be? It might be different if you know or knew of the man in the photo. If you didn’t perhaps you’d think he was indeed training for something like bodybuilding, wrestling, or just loving the gym. Maybe even you’d assume he was a model or male stripper? He so could’ve been! Even though some assumptions might be right, let’s try to not focus on the first three letters of the word ASSumption.
We often times “mislabel” people based on physical attributes. Many women get called “dumb blondes.” If too thin, they have an “eating disorder.” If they are well-endowed, they have had surgery for sure. It works in professions too. Some that are nurses get accused of not “making it as a doctor.” If you’re highly successful or intelligent, you become a “nerd” or “always bragging.” Am sure you could share your own assumptions and all of us are guilty. I’ve often heard how “pretty people have it easy.” Not true at all. They need to prove their worth is more than a face or even a body.
Not all of us base assumptions on outside or external factors. As a writer, it probably is assumed I’m anti-social, who knows?! I’m working on this more and more by really getting to the core or root of a person. Take this blog for example. I have often times pondered how my writings are always evolving. What started as mainly outward comparisons with Warrior has become much more internal and introspective. I obviously don’t mean physical discipline but ya know– that teen girl who means so much to me more now. More on that in a few weeks….😬
We need to find out people’s “stories” like I always say– along with the how and why. It isn’t just about the what. Why do you do the things you do and how do you do them? Are you assuming the worst or negativity in others most of the time? Maybe others are even assuming the worst about you.
My challenge for you is to ease up on those assumptions if you can. Next time you are around a group of people somewhere, try super hard to not assume the worst about them. I’ll do it too. It could be in a restaurant, the airport, a shopping mall, concert, or anywhere really. We don’t know their story and might never fully.
Many assumed the worst about Warrior without ever really knowing him. Sure, we do bring on a little of this ourselves but people are always quick to jump on that negative train. There is a reason why we open up to some and not others. Let’s not assume the worst and be open to giving the benefit of the doubt. We all need this life lesson and not just for famous people. Warrior wasn’t exempt from this either. Let’s respect and not assume…. 👊🏻👏🏻
~~~ P.S. We are taking a vacation so this will be it for a bit. Check back in a few weeks or feel free to catch up on previous posts! In the meantime, visit me at: www.spiritandbelief.com for other spiritual posts, book info, and a Work With Me page 😊 You can also find me on Twitter, youtube, and Pinterest.
*** Happy Independence Day tomorrow for all celebrating in the U.S.A.! Remember those true ultimate heroes who fought to make our country FREE! 🙏🏻🇺🇸