This Brotherhood of Mine

Me and the boys. Yep. For many fun times it was and I always seemed more comfortable around guys. Dating? Well, that was kinda another post but this one is more about other memories. Sure, sometimes guys bring the egos but girls bring the drama and I never could get into that. Even now with both sides of the family I prefer the company of menfolk. Is that sad? Maybe, but not for me. I have often said how my brother and I were always closer than either sister as we are almost twins and share similar traits. There were other reasons though as we thrived on the silly and not seriousness of some girls.

Yes, wrestling was funny (for the most part…) when we watched together but there were many more times. I had several cousins close in age and even a few my same age but on some occasions, girls other than me got sorta mean and gossipy. I’d hang with my brother and boy cousin a few years younger. Oh what great stories we have! I laugh since on “The Ultimate Collection” DVD, there is a match from December 17, ( my husband’s bday) 1988 between the Ultimate Warrior and the Honky Tonk Man. The camera pans the crowd and there is this boy with arms raised that could be my cousin’s doppelgänger! He looks exactly like him at that age. How was he there and not me, lol?! My brother totally agreed on the resemblance. 💯

I also used to help some boys cheat on tests in school. One was even the boy who had the Road Warriors on a notebook. You’ll find that story from years ago in my book- Spirit and Belief. We were friends and never got caught. See, I wasn’t the “good girl” all the time! I still am not about some things… 🤫Even former boyfriends of my sisters I seemed to get along better with than some of the girls. Guess it all started with my girl issues that carried over when it came to trust but we do evolve over time. Some women never outgrow their snobbiness or martyr attitude but that’s been talked about too.

Don’t get me wrong here. I do have some close women in my life but honestly, no “bestie.” I’m not that close with immediate women in my family with very different personalities. I’m the black sheep for sure but am OK with that now. My spiritual cousin and I are very close as she is like the older sister I never had. Maybe I just never felt judged by boys and could be myself. We always have both energies ya know. I’ve never been a “girly” girl but let me tell you, I embrace my femininity big-time more than ever just not in a flashy way. Back in the day, girls would not watch sports or even talk about them. I did have friends in school who played their own sports but professionally on TV was never a topic with them at all. I loved our Cleveland sports teams of football and basketball in the mid 80’s but never had one conversation with another girl ever that I can recall. I have stated this about wrestling as well. My mom actually would watch with my brother and I all about how our Cleveland teams were doing. Dad started WWF but never got into actually sitting and watching the others with us. Never my sisters either. I enjoyed it all. 🏀🏈🤼‍♀️ You’d catch me more at a monster truck rally over a fashion show any day. I like the action and it showed over the years. We took our kids to a monster truck rally a few years back as it was all my idea. Two trucks were actually named “Tombstone” and “Gravedigger.” Guess who I think of on that, ha ha!

I even enjoy all the superhero movies. Yes, some do involve women as well and I am a sucker for rom-coms but between the movie “Frozen” and let’s say- “The Avengers,” yeah I think you know the answer for me. I know “Frozen” is animated but I always thought if they made a movie like that about sisters, why can’t there be one about brothers? Maybe there is, I don’t really know. 🤔When I want to be that GIRL, I sure am in other ways. I can get glammed up and feel pretty but don’t need to live and breathe it always. I’m not out to bash men and never will entirely. Despite women fighting for equality, some are just as nasty as men can be. I believe there are more fake women out there because men are more direct. Sometimes it doesn’t always work in your favor but it all depends on your experiences. Many women I truly admire really and I was shown to tap in to that feminine side more which I have done. Not all women are “cliquey” just like not all men are controlling. We always need that balance of strength and emotion whether we are that guy or gal.

I just seemed to hit it off more with a brotherhood of sorts which explains A LOT now. I remember being picky with some guys but I was afraid of not liking them if they liked me or getting hurt even. With girls it would seem one day they’d be your friend and the next, you didn’t exist. I may never have that elusive female BFF but it’s OK now as I don’t fight it anymore. I am me so that’s that. I would fight so hard for some women but you can’t fight for someone who doesn’t reciprocate.

I do wish you all friends whether it’s a brotherhood, sisterhood, or any in betweens. We just connect with whoever “gets” us and who truly wants to stick around. Thank you Warrior for always sticking around as he “gets” me for sure. 💙😉 I was that GIRL who watched the Ultimate Warrior most definitely but totally understood the guy vibe of the sport back then. We all have our real reasons and I am grateful for mine. Maybe things will change one day but our life lessons teach us to grow as we should. The guys in my life came for a reason just like the girls but my brotherhood gives me such fond memories that the sisters couldn’t. Just be you and don’t fight against it. We are all in this together as brothers and sisters in a way so be comfortable being the warrior you need to be always. We can be competitors but let’s do it in a healthy human way…,

P.S. I am very glad to have talked with a few in Warrior’s “brotherhood” outside of wrestling… it means so much…🥹

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