As I honor and remember Patriot Day today, all those images come to mind of 18 years ago. Those true warriors battling to save lives will always remain in my heart. The survivors and those lost have their scars– external and internal. 🇺🇸💔😪…
My story to share isn’t comparable to 9/11 of course but does relate to the warrior battle scars I’ve endured. Warrior had his battles as am sure some of you have had also. Do you hide your scars or proudly show them off? That photo of me you see is a visible facial scar I incurred over 19 years ago as a result of a car accident. I relate more details of the Good Samaritan woman who came to my aid in “Angels on Earth” – 11/19/18 thru my other blog at: www.spiritandbelief.com
This post today is more about my fighting spirit as a warrior even back then.
Four broken cheekbones wouldn’t stop me, oh no. Thankfully, I wasn’t at fault and was nicely compensated for my injuries. Determination on the inside matters, not money on the outside. Sure, that nest egg came in handy years later but healing became my priority.
That warrior girl then made jokes with the paramedics, fought wearing a neck brace, and even conversed with the woman at fault. Being so panic stricken, she ran around screaming. I pushed my arm thru the broken driver’s side window and grabbed her arm while saying calmly to call 9-1-1. The victim had to comfort another. I look back with such amazement. Another humorous moment was car shopping with my Dad. By then, my left eye was streaming quite often so it looked like I was crying. That was part of the healing. I had joked with the car salesman about an accident victim getting a good deal– (cue the tears!) I also had told co-workers about wanting a new car but not this way! Glad my humor remained… That was also part of my warrior self.
The remaining weeks that followed brought so much battling that I was told often to “rest.” After all, 5.5 hours of plastic surgery would make anyone tired in many ways. This relates to last week’s post of asking for help which again was hard to do. I would cover up my “better” eye and force the “bad” one to read. Of course both move anyway but my warrior spirit had to take action.
I had a crooked smile for a while and got different creams to hide my scars. The scars on my belly previously mentioned from working out wrong at age 12 could be hidden but this couldn’t. Warrior had his face paint but I wasn’t in character– this was really me. Nowadays, I don’t cover those scars anymore and own them with pride. They are part of me and winning that battle.
Those are external just like a few others. Remember My “Backbreaker” Injury where I discussed my back but also Warrior breaking his ankle? (5/22/19) Well, he also tore a bicep years after that and handled it in his own Warrior way. All external but what about those internal ones? Most may know of his heart condition but we all also have scars on the inside forever a part of us. Maybe they’ve healed, maybe they haven’t. Both Warrior and his wife Dana were bullied but they never gave up that warrior spirit of battling those internal scars.
The outside can be healed but the inside emotions forever remain. It’s all in how you respond that makes such a difference. I didn’t share my accident story for pity at all. I could’ve listed much more but am sharing to show how we must as warriors battle back always. Whatever your scars are, don’t hide them. It may be difficult to do but as a warrior, I realized it became a must.
Again, I will not ever compare my scars to those who have been through much worse but the emotion is the same. Just like with Warrior’s life moments and mine. They are never concretely similar but the feelings and responses are. Don’t just use your battle scars to tell a great story of survival but use them to inspire others. That’s what Warrior did and hopefully I am doing that also for all of you. It’s your turn next to pass on your warrior battle scars to another and keep inspiration going.
*** Those Patriots of 9/11 sacrificed so much as real warriors. As we pause, let’s honor our scars and own them as we battle on everyday.
…”the wound heals but the scar, that scar remains.” ~~Poison
~~ Every Rose Has It’s Thorn, 1988. 🥀