Bittersweet Milestones

Do you celebrate milestones? Some I do but always remember them all, good or bad– small and big. Many Warrior fans recently remembered the good (or should I say great?!) milestone of 30 years ago at #Summerslam 1988 when the Ultimate Warrior pinned the Honky Tonk Man for the Intercontinental Title. I can’t believe I was almost 16 then which is how old Mattigan Warrior will be later this year.

The Ultimate Warrior character made his television debut 30 years ago last year and did I celebrate? No, but I sure remembered. Another “fond” memory of mine personally was remembering 25 years ago last year of a Saturday Night’s Main Event match with the Ultimate Maniacs vs. Money Inc. for the tag team belts. That story is in my book Spirit and Belief (in a way) and part of that day I will always keep to myself– sorry! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜³πŸ˜¬ #Summerslam 1992 between the Ultimate Warrior and “Macho Man” Randy Savage was also 25 years ago last year and also part of my book in the “Dreams” chapter.

Let’s look ahead a little. Very soon I will have 100 posts on this blog and that number astounds me. THANK YOU always to everyone reading and sharing. It truly means the world to me. It also has reached over 30+ countries and 6 continents. (There’s those numbers again!) I am so glad to be impacting the world with my voice and message. Hopefully, I’ve inspired some of you to do the same.

Next year of 2019 brings so many milestones and several involve the Warrior family. Warrior and Dana would’ve been married 20 years, Warrior will be gone then for 5, Indiana I believe will be graduating high school, and Warrior would’ve been turning 60. *** I needed to pause but am back now.*** Will they be celebrating and remembering these bittersweet milestones? That is up to Dana and her girls but perhaps she will share some of this with us fans. Their privacy is to be respected but I will reflect on these as well with much emotion.

My husband and I will celebrate 20 years since we first met in 2019 and that number is so staggering. Sometimes, time does really feel that long as the date implies but sometimes it’s the blink of an eye. Warrior’s passing seems to be both with me especially considering all that has happened since then. A photograph, video, or even a book can transport you right back in that moment as if nothing ever changed.

Think of how you are now and how far you’ve come. I know this is true for me as I hope you feel the same. Nostalgia brings many feelings but we need to live in the now. Warrior even said to do this everyday.

Let’s talk #Wrestlemania! Can you believe 35 is next year? I still remember the first one when my brother and I were brimming with excitement. I don’t watch now but certainly know all the details. In 2 years, WM6 will be turning 30. That number sure is popular in today’s blog! That was also the year I graduated high school so for all you newbies- no, I wasn’t 6,7, 8, etc. when Warrior WON!!! Warrior’s return in 2014 was also (yes, we all know) WM30 weekend. Maybe I should’ve included that number with this title…πŸ€”πŸ˜‰

Milestones will forever be there in our lives waiting for us to celebrate, remember, or both. I could’ve included lots more but these main ones made the cut on my list. Oh, one more is that I have a high schooler this year. Still getting used to that and will be for a while am sure. 😯

Birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, deaths, graduations, reunions, and any other events in your lives should always be reflected upon with whatever way suits you. No one should force you to plan or attend anything that isn’t in your heart but there are some exceptions. I remember Dana saying that she and her girls do remember the bad along with the good. It is all your life and should be acknowledged but is up to you to determine how.

Warrior even mentioned he and Dana’s 13th wedding anniversary in a video and that number isn’t a milestone at all. His family growing up celebrated very little but she did. Small things can be celebrated too and should not be taken for granted. To think I have a connection with that number and him is humbling to me. She expressed on her podcast #TotalWarriors how their family loves the number 13. It has been a part of my journey with Warrior also. My post “Lights on, Lights off” is a clue but the rest can be another story!

Keep the bittersweet milestones close to your heart and remember always if not celebrating. I know I will but those great ones are worth the most. (SS ’88, WM6, WM30 HOF)

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Which Warrior Would You Choose?

Many times while watching Warrior on YouTube videos or seeing him with fans, a few questions lingered for me. Fans of course are there since they love the Ultimate Warrior but then Warrior himself is that character. He would always ask how they want items signed and for me, that’s classy. He lets them choose. Which name or “person” would you choose and why?

Before I personally answer that, a favorite video of mine is this boy at a meet and greet. They were chatting and Warrior says to the boy: “People say my hair has changed. My hair hasn’t changed, has it? It’s the same as it was back then, ain’t it?” The boy laughs and says: ” It has….” Warrior rubs his head as laughter ensues from the other adults nearby. Two looks, one man. I never forgot that video so just had to find it again.

Sure, he could’ve been unrecognizable to a child who sees the character and man as entirely separate. Warrior made his character so multi-dimensional and still him underneath it all. Many performers didn’t do that but their character worked for them in the way they needed. Warrior took such risks which proves his longevity today.

I’ll answer my own question of “which Warrior would I choose?” My teenage self only knew one but my adult self knows both. Warrior, Mr. Warrior, Dr. Warrior– whatever you want to call him, that’s the line I’d be in. What if we could have them both standing at a meet and greet with two lines? Whose line would you be in? I mention a graphic organizer in my book Spirit and Belief like a sun but here’s another one– a Venn diagram. Yes, I love ideas my kids learn in school.

A Venn diagram has two circles that intersect with a little space in the middle. The left circle would be the Ultimate Warrior and the right would be Warrior with that little space in the middle where they intersect. You list traits of each then the commonalities in the middle. It’s done in their Language Arts classes with comparing book characters.

I’m sure you all can list your own traits of both but the middle is most important. That’s where the two meet and become one. We are all the same, celebrity or not and we come together as just people. Even though I had a past with the Ultimate Warrior character, my present is now with Warrior. It is all connected whether in memories, dreams, or spirit. I loved watching him perform with all his intensity but the real guy and his message are truth enough for me.

We all have different sides to ourselves and with being a celebrity, you are the performer and real self. That’s the price of fame. Take away the running, paint, long hair, gear, screaming, and anything else Ultimate and then you just have Warrior. We all have stuff we hide behind and then there’s just us. Wouldn’t you want people to meet the REAL you anyway? Yes, it’s hard taking away all the extra things but sometimes that’s exactly what we need to do.

Warrior had the courage to step away from that character for a while and explore other business opportunities. Yes, he still would use that character with his livelihood but really, wouldn’t you? WWE and Warrior could’ve worked together for many years but that didn’t happen back then so he did it his OWN way. I get it. We can be a character but what we really want and need is to be appreciated for our realness underneath it all. Some may not like us, agree with us, or want to be around us. We all need respect for just being who we are behind the mask.

Yeah, I know this is deep but really think about it. We need to be us, whatever the cost. So, whose line would you be in? Is this an easy or hard question for you? It’s very simple ( my opinion) but does make me think of myself and perhaps the masks I wear. Do I let others see the real me? Well, I sure am doing better at that now with everything I’ve done. I have Warrior to thank for most of it, at least the Ultimate spirit stuff anyway. Pick your line and choose the right one. Get to what’s REAL and see beyond those masks and maybe hair…….πŸ˜‰

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