Do any of you come from a family business or feel the need to pursue your passions based on those before you? Kerry Von Erich came from a wrestling family as did many others. Am sure avid fans know of the Poffo’s,(Randy Savage, his Dad, and brother) the Hart’s, Neidhart’s, Flair’s, and of course the McMahon’s. I could list so many more and they continue today. What if you didn’t come from a wrestling background like Warrior? It doesn’t mean you won’t succeed. I actually do come from some writers in my family but never felt pressured to be one.
I bet there are even some whose families pressure you into succeeding in an area they didn’t. Maybe it was a profession they once tried and failed at so now they see an opportunity in your life. They might live their dream through you but is it what YOU want? Some families even have names as part of a “tradition” but when your first is born, you are against it! Yep, that was me. I wasn’t dishonoring but not conforming and there is a difference. Even England’s Royal Family has their share of banter with the recent news of Harry and Meghan. It does affect us all.
I am reminded also of singer Shania Twain. She has always been one of my favorites and I read her autobiography years ago. Being Canadian, she was ostracized for wanting to record country music. That didn’t stop her. She didn’t have much family banter but business banter and that’s an issue too. Stephanie McMahon had to work her way up in the WWE without just having her last name as a bonus. She has mentioned this several times in various interviews. Her Dad made her work just as hard as anyone else and she has proved it without family business banter. Let’s not forget Shane as well!
Sure, if you are looking for success in a family business, it does help if something can be passed along. They can teach you the “ropes” and train since they’ve been there before. Will they disown you if stepping away is your choice? Maybe you’ll care, maybe you won’t. It is different if you love the job like them and embrace it. I mentioned Paige in the WWE a few weeks ago. She also came from a wrestling family but it was her dream to compete and make it in the business. That she did. Now, Simone Johnson is continuing with becoming a 4th generational wrestler. Am sure this is her choice without pressure from her Dad Dwayne–aka “The Rock.”
Pressure is everywhere and comes at us full speed sometimes like a rocket ship. You can apply this to other areas of your life like belief systems. Being raised a certain way doesn’t mean you need to adhere as a adult. Your families emotions are on them, not you. We do need to deal with fallouts but also have respect on both sides. Change is difficult to accept but necessary in life.
Some of us may even do better without a big family influence. We are self-learners but do still need help from others — albeit a few. That was Warrior’s life in pro wrestling. Many others fell into this category too but I often wondered if they felt isolated for that. Again, there are always pros and cons to every side. Some might’ve got distanced for not coming from a wrestling dynasty or legacy. That attitude only made Warrior want success even more. His younger daughter may follow in her Dad’s “boots” one day with Warrior’s Ultimate Spirit guiding along the way. Warrior believed too much in being an individual to ever pressure his daughter to become a wrestler. That choice is hers to make despite his passing.
We do share what we know but should do so without expectation. Warrior showed his daughters “moves” over the years because it was still part of him. I sang preschool songs and did crafts with my kids for years since it was still part of me. We know our strengths and share them but how one interprets it is their feeling. It is tough as a parent to see a strength in your child you so want them to pursue. Encourage– yes. Force–no. They need to figure out their life with parental guidance and not pressure.
We all just want to be happy and if you’re not, then get out of the business. This statement is partially credited to Andre the Giant and it is so true. Our success might not equate what family banter dictates but we still need to be ourselves fully. The pressure shouldn’t get too much where we feel discouraged. Don’t ever let that happen warriors as there should always be another solution. Family Business Banter may not affect us all but if it does, be true to you while always showing respect. You can succeed and WILL even without a family legacy.
*** P.S. Kerry Von Erich and the Ultimate Warrior came full circle after working together early on in the WCCW and then later in the WWE. I missed that P.S. of a few weeks ago! 💙💙
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