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Bittersweet Milestones

Do you celebrate milestones? Some I do but always remember them all, good or bad– small and big. Many Warrior fans recently remembered the good (or should I say great?!) milestone of 30 years ago at #Summerslam 1988 when the Ultimate Warrior pinned the Honky Tonk Man for the Intercontinental Title. I can’t believe I was almost 16 then which is how old Mattigan Warrior will be later this year.

The Ultimate Warrior character made his television debut 30 years ago last year and did I celebrate? No, but I sure remembered. Another “fond” memory of mine personally was remembering 25 years ago last year of a Saturday Night’s Main Event match with the Ultimate Maniacs vs. Money Inc. for the tag team belts. That story is in my book Spirit and Belief (in a way) and part of that day I will always keep to myself– sorry! 😂😳😬 #Summerslam 1992 between the Ultimate Warrior and “Macho Man” Randy Savage was also 25 years ago last year and also part of my book in the “Dreams” chapter.

Let’s look ahead a little. Very soon I will have 100 posts on this blog and that number astounds me. THANK YOU always to everyone reading and sharing. It truly means the world to me. It also has reached over 30+ countries and 6 continents. (There’s those numbers again!) I am so glad to be impacting the world with my voice and message. Hopefully, I’ve inspired some of you to do the same.

Next year of 2019 brings so many milestones and several involve the Warrior family. Warrior and Dana would’ve been married 20 years, Warrior will be gone then for 5, Indiana I believe will be graduating high school, and Warrior would’ve been turning 60. *** I needed to pause but am back now.*** Will they be celebrating and remembering these bittersweet milestones? That is up to Dana and her girls but perhaps she will share some of this with us fans. Their privacy is to be respected but I will reflect on these as well with much emotion.

My husband and I will celebrate 20 years since we first met in 2019 and that number is so staggering. Sometimes, time does really feel that long as the date implies but sometimes it’s the blink of an eye. Warrior’s passing seems to be both with me especially considering all that has happened since then. A photograph, video, or even a book can transport you right back in that moment as if nothing ever changed.

Think of how you are now and how far you’ve come. I know this is true for me as I hope you feel the same. Nostalgia brings many feelings but we need to live in the now. Warrior even said to do this everyday.

Let’s talk #Wrestlemania! Can you believe 35 is next year? I still remember the first one when my brother and I were brimming with excitement. I don’t watch now but certainly know all the details. In 2 years, WM6 will be turning 30. That number sure is popular in today’s blog! That was also the year I graduated high school so for all you newbies- no, I wasn’t 6,7, 8, etc. when Warrior WON!!! Warrior’s return in 2014 was also (yes, we all know) WM30 weekend. Maybe I should’ve included that number with this title…🤔😉

Milestones will forever be there in our lives waiting for us to celebrate, remember, or both. I could’ve included lots more but these main ones made the cut on my list. Oh, one more is that I have a high schooler this year. Still getting used to that and will be for a while am sure. 😯

Birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, deaths, graduations, reunions, and any other events in your lives should always be reflected upon with whatever way suits you. No one should force you to plan or attend anything that isn’t in your heart but there are some exceptions. I remember Dana saying that she and her girls do remember the bad along with the good. It is all your life and should be acknowledged but is up to you to determine how.

Warrior even mentioned he and Dana’s 13th wedding anniversary in a video and that number isn’t a milestone at all. His family growing up celebrated very little but she did. Small things can be celebrated too and should not be taken for granted. To think I have a connection with that number and him is humbling to me. She expressed on her podcast #TotalWarriors how their family loves the number 13. It has been a part of my journey with Warrior also. My post “Lights on, Lights off” is a clue but the rest can be another story!

Keep the bittersweet milestones close to your heart and remember always if not celebrating. I know I will but those great ones are worth the most. (SS ’88, WM6, WM30 HOF)

P.S. I have exciting news to share as details are coming together but great things for my ‘lil book Spirit and Belief! Stay tuned!!

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The Spiritual Warrior

Before I thought of this next post, my mind wondered what other topics to discuss. The book “A Life Lived Forever” always inspires me but then I looked at other things in my Warrior collection. The comic book caught my eye as I hadn’t paged thru it in quite some time. 22 years ago I read all of it after purchasing from my local drugstore. Sometimes I’d glance at it but then once again 4 years ago. It was too soon to pick that up as the hospital scene hit a little too close to my heart. 😢💔

Warrior mentions “Destrucity” within the introduction and then these pages pictured near the end. Back then, the entire concept amazed me despite the mortality reference. I would just read the words and think– WOW… but now in my spiritual development, it has an entirely new meaning.

I did some research (highlighted words) as this doesn’t even include the story itself. The words “higher self” or “selves” are mentioned 17 times, “evolution” or “past lives” is mentioned 15 times, and “intuition” 4. These words meant very little if nothing to me then but I always believed anyway.

For some of you disconnected with Warrior’s spiritual nature, just read these pages. I only have the first book but that’s enough for me. When I first starting getting “signs,” I read many books and they ALL referenced these words of Warrior’s. I had no idea at the time how his mindset really was. Not a clue. At least not a strong one anyway. Those were words never in my life before and intuition I learned as “conscience.” He even references God but this can also be synonymous with Creator, Source, Divine Light, consciousness, or any other term you connect to.

Many words he used throughout his career like destiny, intensity, energy, strength, and of course spirit and belief ( wink-wink– my book!) It wasn’t until later on that he mentioned more spiritual words and boy did I pay attention! For him to describe evolution and past lives relates so well with what I am learning now. My belief system never aligned with how I view spirituality today.

The “spirit of warrior” is in all of us if we do indeed listen to that higher self and follow our intuition. That is my entire message of what I am trying to educate others on. I never picked up one book or looked at one blog during my development thinking of Warrior in this way– never. I only researched to find out what all these “signs” meant for me and why Warrior seemed so strong a presence. It wasn’t because I knew or remembered him describing higher selves, evolution, or intuition at all. There are many more magazine articles or YouTube videos of Warrior’s where these are mentioned several times.

He explains on the Ultimate Collection DVD how: ” whatever the character was in the ring was just an amped up version of who that character was outside the ring.” At first I thought– no way! He isn’t the Ultimate Warrior all the time until I realized he meant something deeper. He means deep down to the core and for him, it was the spiritual Warrior. Why do you think he was so successful with his promos or words? Yes, some thought he was strange but he already had that spiritual side within.

He used that to evolve into the character he not only wanted to be but needed to be. He honored his true beliefs and not many people seemed receptive at the time. To think I just thought he was cool and different… 😜💖 Little did I know and maybe you warriors didn’t either just how much spirituality was part of his very essence. I of course, had no idea of my own really until an experience ten years ago. I never made it a big deal but again- always believed and accepted. It had nothing to do with Warrior at all.

Reading and looking at the comic book now leaves me feeling too many things to describe. I am so incredibly honored and amazed at how he acknowledges MY spiritual warrior all the time. This is my destiny and I find things out that always blow my mind. When others say: “He was just a character on T.V.,” I just laugh now instead of becoming defensive. 😂 I know better and am so grateful to be included within his tribe of following my OWN spirit of warrior.

Listen to your higher self.

Evolve into your OWN spiritual warrior.

Follow your intuition everyday . ( I sign this in my books!)

~~~ My meditation everyday has always included: “Help me connect with my higher self which in turn leads me to the Divine.”

You can follow my other spiritual blog at: www.spiritandbelief.com

I would love to hear your stories of finding the “spirit of warrior” inside you!! ~~~ #alwaysbelieve

“STAND OUT, STAND UP, DELIVER”

Do you warriors know this? Such a slogan and yet is it something we practice in our lives everyday? Warrior certainly did and you can bet he expects that still from us today. I think back on my life years ago and must admit this was not something I did if ever. Sure, there were times I felt different than others and even acted on my own terms but not as dramatic as his words. Standing out? Maybe a little. Standing up? Heck no until I got more courage. Deliver? That involves much more like acting on a decision or following through. Very tough to do.

If Warrior never shook those ropes, worn those arm tassels, or even ran to the ring, would his character have stood out? Maybe but not in the way he wanted and certainly not in the ways us fans always remember. He didn’t listen to naysayers and believed in how to deliver.

He applied all that as well with his personal life and how he wanted to stand out, up, and deliver. Much respect to anyone with enough courage expressing what they know to be true. Your attitude makes all the difference.

Nowadays, I am much better at all of these things but like you, I falter and stumble somewhat. Think of all the things in your life that you “stand up” for. They can be big or small. Maybe you advocate a certain belief or opinion. Perhaps even defending a friend or caring for an animal. To stand up for yourself is THE most important of all.

For me, to “stand out” was always much easier. It is a challenge in many cases but perhaps I exhibited more confidence than I ever thought. I have said many times to not be a “robot” or “clone” and it just always came naturally for me being myself. It’s different for everyone but I never stood out to spite anyone or wanted my claim to fame. I do it because it’s in my blood as a warrior and has always been. I truly believe that to be one of the MANY reasons we work so well together– with him in spirit of course!

This whole deliver thing is the trickiest of all. It’s like when the one count is easy, the two count comes, but that three count sometimes misses the mat. We want to deliver to get the pin but foreign objects fall on our path.

Taking action on what you deliver and how needs to be planned for it to become successful in your life. If I never would’ve had the guts to stand up and confront a teacher who gave me a bad grade on a paper, I couldn’t see that better grade so deserving of my hard work. BTW~~~ this was happening around the same time as #WM6 so can you imagine my emotions??? 😳😬😉

If I never believed myself to stand out, delivering this blog and eventual book Spirit and Belief couldn’t have happened. It is our birthright like Warrior said to do these things without settling for normalcy or mediocrity.

I love the “normal” sometimes but without the delivery of us to stand out and up, it becomes boring and very mundane. Ask yourself what needs to change in your life for you to feel good. Warrior always preached about our lives not just being the 9 to 5 “jobs” but ones which involve creativity that surpasses the “norm.” If you struggle with this, think of activities that really fill you up. Not your office, co-workers, business meetings, or any of that! What inspires you to REALLY stand out, up, and deliver?

My list is quite large and yes, I do make the time. Reading, writing,(of course!) being with my family, swimming, biking, fitness, music, meditation, nature, and it goes on. Think of your list. What comes to mind? 🤔 Even Warrior had other interests besides his paid livelihood.

I am still figuring it out all the time but once that little girl grew into her voice, there was no turning back for me. The delivery part really needs more work but I am doing it everyday. Warrior said: “Do the work” and I have referenced that many times. Your life is different than anyone else’s but in the end, the business deadlines will mean nothing compared to your spirit with no deadlines.

Start now with whatever works for you and by being true to yourself, you’ll get noticed. This blog continues to amaze me and yes, I want to sell the books too but… 📚 there’s that delivery again. I am doing what I love by being different without normalcy and that’s the heart of a Warrior.

Can you honestly ask yourself if standing out, up, and delivering is in your birthright? I can and you know what? IT IS!!! Be that voice and person you know is inside and f’ing get rid of mediocrity. Warrior would say something else but am sure I can’t print it here!

~~~ Kathy

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#standout #standup #deliver #normalcysucks #dothework #beYOU

Holding My OWN

I decided to get inspired by Dana Warrior’s blog post of last week titled: “Warriors Meet Their Match.” First, I did say how Warrior himself always inspired me but now it has become more about his wife Dana. Her words always resonate with me in some way. Second, that takes me to the reason I’m writing today and that is to share my version or story of “Holding My OWN.” I felt compelled somewhat to expand on her words with a little dose of myself mixed in.

Like she said about “not wanting to ruffle feathers,” I feel the same. For the first time EVER, I do have to disagree a teeny tiny bit with her views on friendships– especially women. I adore Dana, you all know I do but being part of this tribe of #TotalWarriors, we all have a story and a voice. She stated with keeping a friendship that if things don’t go right: “the muck is squarely upon you.” I totally understand this however, I GAVE to some friendships and got very little in return. Yes, to be a friend you do have to give but possibly I gave too much.

For years, I beat myself up about so many things but then decided how wrong that was. I will OWN some situations regarding female friends but not all. Some people just need to be let go so we can evolve in a new way. Friendships worth saving need to be 50-50 just like a romance even though both are HARD. We can only try so much until cutting our losses. No one’s circumstances are the same so those women who have a few close BFF’s, you are truly blessed.

People do grow apart for various reasons but some in my life didn’t want to go that extra mile and give equally. No one person should be the “doer” without the other helping pull the rope on the other side.

This brings me to the other topic on those romantic relationships of ours. This blog wouldn’t be true without me mentioning Warrior, right? I am so glad to also have a man who would defend my honor to anyone just like Warrior did for Dana. I must admit though when we first started dating, I hated him doing those little extra things for me. Don’t get me wrong- I secretly loved it but had that same attitude Dana mentioned of: “I can do it myself.” The truth was that I did so much for my independent self back then, I had no idea that a guy– any guy would help me with stuff ever.

I have always prided myself with not being like those other girls living to impress a boy. I dressed the way I wanted, wore my hair the way I liked, and was interested in many things. None of it would ever be to get a boy even if I could or to have more friends either. I would hate being a twin and sorry to any of you out there but it wasn’t written in the stars for me!

Being a “robot” or “clone” isn’t the Warrior way and it never was for me. Sometimes, it still is like that today. We all want to fit in with shared interests but still want to OWN our true nature.

I sure hope my kids absorb some of my “authenticness” into their own being as well. They see how their Dad does little things for me and without feeling complacent, I know it’s him being himself while making me happy. He’ll warm up my coffee or bring me nachos and wine. ☕️🥙🍷Sure, I can do those things but it took me a long time accepting a man still “wooing” his girl.

I remember how it was back in high school from very personal experiences and when Dana and Mattie mention guys not fighting for girls, I get it. It used to be like this: A girl would leave her BFF in a situation almost right away if her BF called. Yep, so true and so sad. On the other hand, a boy would rarely leave his cool guy friends if a girl called. He’d be labeled “hen-pecked” or “whipped.” I sure hope that’s not the case today but with my children on the cusp of this, Mama will have a say!

I will not knock all the guys out there since many behaviors are generational or perhaps not even learned. Much is common sense but some men just don’t know their “place.” They want to please their girl but don’t know how. Women of yesteryear had men doing almost everything for them that nowadays they can do on their own. It is confusing for sure and takes so much work but in the long run, very worth it.

My husband and myself have quite the age difference similar to Warrior and Dana’s but sharing like minded goals should win over any number. For me personally, I am glad to have been near my late twenties when we met. By then I already had a pretty good sense of myself and felt much pride being my OWN woman. I didn’t fall into that category of childhood home, college, then marriage. I know this will serve me well in the future as most women my age are finally learning to not rely on a man for everything. Again, I LOVE the little things my husband does for me but also know they don’t affect my survival.

I was not ready for marriage at that young age of 21 or 22 even though a man’s family I was seeing then wanted us to become more serious. Everyone chooses their own path and based on some marriages I knew of, it would be different for me.

I do OWN my feminine self more now than ever before. No, I was never a “girly girl” who lives for dresses and high heels. I express it when and how I want but don’t feel the need to conform. Dana is right with romantic relationships being about a dance. We do have to give our hearts despite fear of the unknown. My husband is our family’s protector and I can’t imagine being without him. One day if I must be without him, my inner independent warrior woman will have to hold my OWN while remembering that I can.

Holding Your OWN is extremely challenging in these times but necessary in order to thrive. Whatever your role as a man or woman, treat your significant other the way you’d like to be treated despite possible societal ways of the past. My husband and I need to teach our son how to treat a girl properly but I believe the same needs to be said of our daughter.

There are differences of course but once you see someone as your equal, then your partnership will become real. I held my OWN then and will always as is my wish for you.

~~~ Kathy 💖💪🏻🤗